There is a school dance on friday and i really like this guy and i want to ask him out but i don't know how to. I am not really sure if he likes me but i know that he is one of my friends. He is really nice, smart and funny and his birthday is a day after mine??? (he is older than me by a year) I really want to ask him out and i don't know how, but i don't want to sit home felling "Frick, i wonder what would happen between us if i did ask him". What should i do??!?!?!??! The dance is on friday and i only have 4 days. Please give me as much advice as possible. I want to know how i should ask him, where i should ask him. Thank you so much for your help!
2007-02-05 11:45:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I guess I would ask him if he was planning on going to the dance and see what he says. Then you might try to find out if he is taking anyone. If not, they just take the plunge and ask.
2007-02-05 11:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by zyllee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there Rayan,,
I hope I got that right..Anyway on to your question.. I was thinking that maybe just asking to go to the dance as a friend is a great start. Besides, how do you know he does not feel the same way as you do, and does not know how to ask either?? I also feel taking it one day at a time, making the best out of the time you have together would definitely bring you two closer together.. Bonding together..
Over all, I would ask him for the dance and making the best out of the times that you are both alone together. Laugh, be a brat, and in a respecting manner be sexy... How can he resists you then huh??
Best of luck either way... Sometimes though it is better to have a great friend than to lose one...But you know your situation better than I do..
2007-02-05 19:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as how to ask him, the best thing is to be honest and come right out and ask him. The where should be a place you are comfortable and where there are not a lot of people hanging around. Just relax and ask him but don't wait too long or someone else might ask him. You will never know what might happen unless you ask and yes there is a risk he will say no but at least you will know. Everyone experiences a negative answer once in awhile, you just can't let it get you down.
Good Luck
2007-02-05 19:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off have on of your super trusting friends ask if he likes you more than a friend if he says yes the next day tap him on his shoulder and ask if the two of you can talk take him were no one is and get right to the point say are you going to the dance with anyone if he says no say well would you like to go with me and if he says no than at least you tried its better than not knowing. If he says no go anyway and have a good time if he says yes congrats! Hope to help
2007-02-05 19:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should ask him, because if you don't, you're always going to be kicking yourself for not doing it.
Here's a suggestion:
Sit next to him. Start a regular conversation about school activities, classes, etc. Ask if he is going to the dance on Friday. If yes, ask if he has a date or is just going with friends. If no, then ask if he would like to be your date for the dance.
2007-02-05 19:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go with him, then ask him before he asks someone else. Just be like," What's up. Are you going to the dance with anyone yet?", and if he says no then ask him if he wants to go with you. I think it's cool when a girl asks a guy out.
2007-02-05 19:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by richard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd try to feel him out and try to get a vibe. Ask him if he is planning to go to the dance. Listen to his voice if he is excited or just not his cup of tea. If he says yes, then ask him if he's asked anyone yet and if he says 'no' ask him why. Look for subtle hints like eye contact and body language (eye contact, facing you, leaning or feet pointing towards you is good.. if his arms are crossed I'd be careful.) If you get a good vibe, ask him to go! I'd try to time it as the last thing I discuss (like end of class, end of lunch period b/c you need an escape strategy. don't want to get stuck with him for an entire awkward period knowing he said no.) Good luck and lastly, if he says no -don't give up. ask another guy and showoff how much fun you are.
2007-02-05 20:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by Cctjca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he is a friend of yours, so just casually bring up the dance in a conversation and ask him if he plans on going. If so, suggest that you two go together. If he says he doesn't plan on going, try to make him feel guilty by saying something like "so your going to make me go alone (with a sad face)"
Good luck
2007-02-05 19:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by *LH* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How? By approaching him ASAP before anyone else does. It's you doing the asking that is meaningful, not any magic words
Where? Wherever you find him - with his buds, pull him away; in line - join him a sec and whisper the question; walking to/from a class - catch up to him, ask, then go on after (have your number on paper, ready for him).
Hurry.
2007-02-05 19:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he is going to the dance and if he has a date for the dance. If he is up for going, but doesn't have a date ask him if he will go with you. Just that simple. Good Luck!
2007-02-05 19:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋