About a week ago I asked my boyfriend (of two years) if he looked at porn, out of curiosity. He said that he does, but very rarely, mostly when he's away from me. (He and I go to different colleges.)I honestly think porn's degrading to women and that a man should only be looking at the woman he's made a commitment to, but I didn't say anything about it. I guess he could tell I wasn't exactly happy about it, so he voluntarily said "I won't anymore. I don't want to make you sad. I promise I won't look at porn." And that was that. Yesterday I went to visit him and I was using his computer to check email. As I started to type into the internet bar, I saw porn sites pop up below. I wanted to see WHEN he looked at these sites, so I looked in the history and saw it had been the night before. I was little sad that he had looked at porn, but mostly upset because he had broken a promise to me that he willingly made. He's never given me a reason to distrust him. Is it wrong for me to be angry?
2007-02-05 11:44:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think people who've answered so far have missed the main part... he willingly, with no prompting from me, made a promise. And then less than a week later he broke that promise. THAT is what I'm upset about.
2007-02-05 12:12:59 · update #1
Its perfectly normal for guys to look at porn....unless they're totally addicted to it. but he shouldn't have made a promise he can't keep......just talk to him about it....I don't understand why it should bother you.....I mean Im sure you look at other guys...its almost the same thing.....just let him know how you feel about the broken promise
2007-02-05 11:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by a1980 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess from a woman's point of view you should be upset with him because he lied to you. The sex drive in some young males is very strong and hard to satisfy. If he was with you and had sex with you everyday, I think you would find his need for the other would go away. But unfortunately that is not the case. So the way I see it, you put up with it or drop him its really your choice. Or trash the computer. Be careful and note that if he still carries on with this behaviour when your married it could be a problem, it might turn into an addiction.
2007-02-05 12:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really wrong for you to be angry, whats so bad of him looking at porn when your not around and probably thinkin of you while he watches it. Wouldnt u rather ur boyfriend be lookin at porn and gettin off then going around and cheating on you? Some is degrading maybe to women, but i think thats just cause usually the guy is dominant in them, but everytime ive done anything with a girl thats usually the way they want it (i dont mean like beating or choking) but just like being rough and in control.
2007-02-05 11:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by billybob 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
but that is a typical guy thing to do...it is a fantasy thing. He prob loves you more than anything...but it could be worse he could be sleeping with other people, so be glad it is just porn.
2007-02-05 11:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by lbitsports 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is,.. Dont be mad. Guys look at porn to better themselves, and will actually be better in bed with you because they learn from it.
2007-02-05 11:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by a Friend 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-02-05 23:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by beyondhelper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋