About a month ago my b/f friend broke up with me. I was deverstated but as time went on i relised he was a jerk. I did'nt hear anything from him for over a month now he is calling me all day and night showing up at my house just begging me to give him another chance. i said no and i mean it but he won't give up. It is tearing me up because i know exactually how if feel cose it was not that long ago i was the one asking him not to leave. What should i do to help him let go? Should i ignore his calls? or should i answer and be him friend cose i am happy to be his friend but i just don't won't to make it any harder for him.
2007-02-05 11:41:24 · 11 answers · asked by k_lollie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're probably sending him mixed signals because you're so concerned about being nice. Don't be happy to be his friend- be done with him. Why do you need to "help" let him go? He's a grown man who chose to screw you over last month. If he's not a grown man and you live at home, ask your dad to have a word with him.
2007-02-05 11:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already kind of answered your own question, when you said he was a jerk. Don't move backwards, move ahead, break off all ties, but you will have to stay strong. Ignore the calls, don't answer the door, eventually he should get the hint. It's to hard to try and be friends with an ex. Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-05 19:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. this is a sad situation. but you have to do what's best for you. just let him know that you do want to be his friend, but that friends is all that it will ever be. and if he keeps calling and wanting to get back together you're just going to have to stop taking his calls. he will be just fine. you got over him and on with your life, and he can do the same. I don't mean to sound cold, but sometimes we all have to deal with situations that hurt. it's all a part of growing and learning. right now he's not willing to realize the pain that he caused you, he only sees his own pain. and it would be good for him to see that you made it through the same thing he's going through right now. and that you did it without his help. because it doesn't sound like he was there for you when you were trying to get over him. anyway, just try to be friends and don't hold bad feelings against one another.
I wish you the best.
2007-02-05 20:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to decide what you really want. If you do not want to be back with him then you have to make it clear. He left you and you got over it. You do not care anymore. You knew what it felt like when he left but you have to consider why he left and would it be worth trying. If you still want him as a friend you should tell him that that's all that can be done. If he doesn't want anything else but the relationship then you need to tell him bye. You need to do what makes you happy.
2007-02-05 19:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sounds like he feel yall should be together when he ready for yall to be together..he left you heart broken let him feel and get a taste of how you felt. if he didnt treat you right the first time dont give him that chance to treat you that way a second..distance yourself beacause if you two become friends and get close you may want that relationship...and however you are being treated as a friend may soon end once that title "b/f--g/f" comes into place.
2007-02-05 19:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by naterie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just want to be friends if he can't except that than you want nothing more do to with him. Most people do not change. Once a jerk mostly always a jerk.
2007-02-05 19:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by chrystalbryeans 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do what he did when you asked him not to leave... he will get over you. he obviously had some sort of plan that fell through. why did HE leave? now all of a sudden he wants you back? whats up with that?
2007-02-05 19:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by munsee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say that u r trying to move on dont waste ur time on someone u dont what to be around tell him its time for to move on ok if u dont love him dont stay ok being friends will make it a little dificalt for him
2007-02-05 19:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok for one thing you aren't a bad guy and a secound is don't blame you self blame the promblem it has came. and one thing you should never ignore his calls ok it will might end your friendship with him or anything else unless you email me and i will give you tips at girlskickass2003@yahoo.com
2007-02-05 19:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by RB- is happy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just move on it would be your best bet in the further!
2007-02-05 19:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋