I am worried about when i get married and do it for the first time that it wont be enjoyable at all and i have hured by many people that it hurts really bad. Please tell me your experiance with your first time and if it hurt and if you can, can you tell me exactly the feeling? I am scared!!!! Please Help!!!
2007-02-05 11:38:27 · 21 answers · asked by peace love & lipgloss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, How old are you. If you are under 20 dont worry about it untill your engaged.. I am proud of you that you have waited however long you have waited. Yes, it does hurt... It feels like.. someone trying to push their way through this tiny whole and it is pain full.. But if you wait till your married the way you've planned to the man you have sex with for the firs time will be very gentle with you. I think that is really precious. You will make love not just "do it" Keep it up Girl Friend. You can email me any time jennifer_sheek@yahoo.com :)
2007-02-05 11:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It feels tight at first but you will relax at a point and it will not hurt anymore. It is a bearable pain unless there is more going on down there or he is too big. On your first time take it slow and make sure he respects that. Don't rush into it make sure to relax your Muscles and the pain will go away until he is all the way in then it will hurt for about 30 seconds and that pain will either be very tough or you may not even know it. everyone is different in how much they really feel.
2016-05-24 19:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not completely painful and unbearable. It's more like uncomfortable. If you do it at a time when you are ready it is not as bad. If you are nervous or awkward it actually makes it hurt more because your vaginal muscles tense up. The tenser you are the harder it is for the penis to enter your vagina. If you are relaxed and comfortable with the man you are having sex with your vagina will relax making it much easier. Personally, i didn't think the pain was that bad at all. If you take it slow and tell your partner when it hurts it will work out just fine.
As far as enjoying it: the first time you probably will not enjoy. but once you get the hang of it and the pain goes away it is something you will enjoy doing.
2007-02-05 11:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Love <3 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm glad you are going to wait for marriage. In a loving committed relationship sex is an important part of what a couple shares. You need to stop having these conversations with your friends. Mature people know that a sexual relationship is private.
When you are in love and married you and your partner will be comfortable with each other and you'll enjoy the experience. That is all you need to know.
2007-02-05 11:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends on the size of his penis and the size of your vagina, and whether or not your hymen has been broken by something else. (tampon, gymnastics, any number of things...)
When I lost my virginity, it was perhaps the most painful experience of my life. I cried, and had aches for a couple days after, but after the first time it never hurt again. And even though it hurt really bad, it was still amazing and intimate to be closer to my love than ever before. Make sure he goes slow and stops if you want him to.
2007-02-05 11:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It just feels like something big being squeezed into a small hole. Honestly, it doesn't hurt all that bad. At least for me it didn't. . . You are more focused on the person than you are the hurt. . . The first time was okay- I freaked out because I bled a some. . . But the second time was amazing!
2007-02-05 11:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Chick-a-Dee 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's different for everyone & also depends on the guy.
If he's rough for your first time, then yeah. It'll hurt and you'll bleed down there.
My fiance was very gentle, so it didn't hurt, it felt more "uncomfortable" & I never bled.
When the time comes, talk him through it and let him know when to stop or when you need a moment.
It's best when he listens to what you need & he doesn't hurt you too much.
2007-02-05 11:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It hurts a little, but when you are with your husband and you are comfortable and relaxed, it won't be bad at all. Your friends probably say it hurts because they have been in weird, uncomfortable situations. Comfort with your man takes time. I can't even remember what it felt like (I'm not that old either!) Good luck to you.
2007-02-05 11:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it does hurt. It feels like a lot of pressure "down there" and the intensity varies greatly with the length and girth of his penis. Sorry I can't be more specific, it just depends on the guy. Don't worry though, it isn't awful and it does get way better!
2007-02-05 11:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by Moose 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i'm gald that your waiting till marriage! i wish i would have! it hurts like a stinging and then a little after that for a few days. It's uncomfortable but after a couple times it gets easier and better. I'm sure your husband will help you though! he'll be glad that you saved yourself for him. Just let him know to take it easy just in case he gets a little wild.
2007-02-05 11:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by jobaby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋