My mom recently overcame breast cancer. My fiance and I do not want gifts for our wedding, but would rather ask people to make a donation to the breast cancer society in our names. I know you are not supposed to put registry cards or requests for money in your wedding invitations, but can we put a separate insert with our donation request in with the wedding invitations?
2007-02-05 11:35:52 · 17 answers · asked by gettingmarriedsoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would go ahead with the insert. Contact the Breast Cancer Society to see if they have inserts you can include with your invitation, stating that they are the your charity of choice and donations can be made in your honour to them.
You could also word it as Let your presence be your gift, donations kindly accepted for the Breast Cancer Society.
2007-02-05 12:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by July Wedding Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, that is very sweet and selfless of the two of you to do. And I think if you typed up a nice insert and placed it in the inviations just mentioning that you would like you're gift money to go to donations, that it wouldn't be tacky at all. Maybe some type of wording for the "optional" wedding gifts...definitely not those words but I can't think of anything else right now. Hopefully you know what I mean!
2007-02-05 12:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any requests for gifts, whether it be from your registry, or cash, should be handled by people close to the couple through word of mouth. It is considered EXTREMELY tacky and downright rude to put any request for any specific gift in the wedding invitation, or any of the enclosures to the invite. The best way to handle this is have your parents, wedding party members, close family answer when they are inevitably asked what you would like that "Sarah and John would really appreciate cash, they are saving for a honeymoon to New York, and aren't really in need of household goods." However, guests are not obliged to give you something just because you asked for it. I would be prepared to not get enough in cash to cover your expenses for your honeymoon.
2016-03-29 06:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, tough call. I would say it's still tacky to make any mention of gifts with the invitation, even for a charity registry. If you had a wedding website, you could put the information on the website and put the link on the invitation. Or have your bridal party actively spread the word.
2007-02-05 11:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put it in the invitations. But I would suggest, maybe when you have your bridal showers, have the host put a card in there saying you would like donations in your name to the breast cancer society. That's normally when you have cards that say where you are registered so I think that would work out well. It might also spread by word of mouth after that.
2007-02-05 13:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I applaud what you are doing, it is still considered inappropriate and tacky to even MENTION gifts in a wedding invitation.
My suggestion? Besides passing it on via word of mouth, create a simply little wedding website with some basic information. There you can mention this request.
2007-02-05 11:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that strict rules of etiquette forbid mentioning money or gifts; however, this is not for yourself, but for others, and in my opinion, that makes a difference. I would certainly not look badly upon a card in an invitation that said something to the effect of, "We have all we need; we ask that in lieu of gifts, you make a donation to
2007-02-05 11:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a great idea!!!!! i wish more people would consider doing things like this.
i don't think that there would be a problem with this at all, since it isn't like a registry, it is different. i wouldn't find a problem with it, nor do i think most people would. and would think that this is a great idea. :)
the idea about the website is a great idea too. you could include that in the invitations, and then go and all the suggestion, request, on there.
congrats!
2007-02-05 11:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by ricleigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not to include it in the invitations. But if you're not computer saavy, you can always send a little note to the people, separately. It doesn't have to be a long letter or any thing, it could be as simple as, "I've always loved your Christmas cookies." and then you could include information about donating.
2007-02-05 12:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Pantaloons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that what you're doing is a really great idea, but I agree with churchmusicgirl in that you shouldn't mention "gifts". I mean yeah, there' s no way that you can have a wedding without gifts, but mentioning them is going to make you sound...kind of expectant and greedy, even though I know you aren't. :)
2007-02-05 11:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Tibs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋