i just found out that my girlfriend did a drug. she doesnt know i know and shes sleeping right now. i found out from a friend of hers. she got it from a friend at lunch and she ate it and im really really worried about her. i never trusted the friend who gave it to her to begin with and this makes it that much worse.i have no idea what to do. she means everything to me and she promised me that she would never ever do drugs. I am 15 and so is she. what should i do?
2007-02-05 11:28:57 · 32 answers · asked by (s)AINT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop trusting your intuitions and relax. Don't believe the drug propaganda, that you are spoon-fed from your parents and the media. Also stop taking your emotions so seriously, if she dies you'll still have a bunch of time to get a new one. That's my advice anyway.
2007-02-05 11:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Pardon? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should let her know that your not into this and it's unacceptable. It's a deal breaker for sure. It's also obvious that at 15 years old you guys shouldn't be so serious.
She sounds like trouble. I would let her know how you feel and tell her that if she does it again you can be friends but that you can't be together.
I hope that she's alright. It takes one bad reaction to a drug to kill; ask the great Len Bias who took cocaine for the first time and died on the spot; after being drafted #2 in the NBA draft getting ready to sign a multi million dollar deal with the Boston Celtics. It only takes one mistake.
2007-02-05 11:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...that's pretty serious. I'm twenty years old and I've never done any kind of drug before. It sounds, however, that she hadn't had any plans to try any either. The best thing you could do would be to just sit down and talk to her because it's best to nip this before it gets to be a problem. If she actually did something then she needs to talk to someone more than ever. She's really lucky to have you worrying about her, because so many people don't have anyone.
2007-02-05 11:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by aolani_dragon_3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that was no help.
You know . . . or, rather, you think you know. Fact is, hearing it from another isn't anything like an actual confession. My point is that this could be a rumor. This is why you don't say anything directly: do not be caught trusting a rumor.
Instead, mention the problems of drugs by way of someone else doing them and you might casually say, "You wouldn't do anything like that, would you?" She will likely say, "Of course not." and if you really love her, you will LET IT GO. If she says she did, comfort and support her, again, because you love her.
2007-02-05 11:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her! You need to tell her how you feel about this, and how disappointed you are in her. Judging by the way you told the story, it's her first time doing drugs, and she probably just took it as a spur of the moment thing. Chances are, she's not planning on doing it again. If she is...you should probably leave her. You don't want to get caught up in a bad crowd.
2007-02-05 11:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by hillystargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are worried about her.
You can't tell her what to do, and she can't tell you what to do.
If you don't want to be around drugs, tell her this, and tell her that if she is going to continue taking things that people hand her, then you will have to break up. And let her decide whether or not the drugs are that important.
If she chooses the drugs over you, then go cry, get over it, and find someone who wants to be with you and have some fun.
2007-02-05 11:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by patrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you know, and depending on the drug you should do research and find out what damage the drug may do to her brain and body if she continues. Perhaps she was just curious and decided to experiment, hoepfully that is the case and her experience with the drug is enough for her. I had a boyfriend who experimented and I never did, but he continued partying, of course it ended our relationship. I know she means the world to you, but if she goes down that path of doing drugs you need to move on. Talk to her and find out why she did it and tell her your concerns.
2007-02-05 11:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kaylin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her that's the only thing that I would do then see what happens also tell her if you ever find out that she does drugs again that you two are through cause if ya stay with her than you are sorta telling her that you are cool with her doing drugs and drugs ain't cool! But don't tell her what to do cause no gf likes being told what to do!
2007-02-05 11:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there hun...and yes it's hard. Perhaps she was just experimenting, or curious. You both are very young, and well...as hard as it is to accept, we all do things in our lives that we later aren't happy about. Don't stress, hopefully it was just a one time thing. Talk to her, let her know that you're aware of what's happened and that you care for her and her health. She may feel like you're butting into her business, but it's for her own good, shows you care for her very much. Hope everything works out...
2007-02-05 11:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be really mature about it, tell her that you found out and how you found out, explain that you're not mad, but you want to hear about her feelings on the issue.
If you are really really worried or mad or anything else, that's okay. It'd be pretty normal to feel that way. But realize that she may not be ready to hear those feelings from you, and it would be easier to approach her as an ally rather than some quasi-parental voice of reason.
2007-02-05 11:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋