Is it bad to not like a guy because he isn't too hot?

Question

I met a guy at convention and we got to kind of like each other but im not sure

Answer 1

No of course not. Sure personality counts for a lot as well but a relationship without physical attraction is called a friendship.

Answer 2

What is more important -- liking someone for their personality, manners, and common likes with you, or liking someone only because they are good looking? Picking someone merely for their looks is very shallow, and you will probably not be happy in the long run. Think about other guys you've dated and broke up with. If they were all good looking, but you had little in common, or they had a lousy personality, or they cheated, then maybe you keep going after the wrong kind of guy. If you look at the on-line dating sites at other women's desires, they all say they want a tall, good looking guy. Yet those women are on the dating sites for years, because the guys they find are also what every other woman wants, and the guy knows it. He can just play the field, and never has to commit.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Not bad, not good, just normal. Women say all the time, "there are no more good men out there" actually we're everywhere, and we're easy to spot, not all buff, not cocky, maybe a little shy, but once we get started very easy to talk to, and comfortable to be around. The problem is our instincts are still on a caveman level so women are attracted to strength and confidence, not understand that where most men get there confidence from is from getting lots of women, ie... he probably won't see you as anything special. So, your choice your decision, but don't complain later if you pass him up for some guy that looks good in a tshirt and whose iq matches his shoe size.

Answer 4

Physical attraction is an important part of any successful relationship. If you're remotely attracted to him, then go for it. Don't turn him down just because he's not your physical "type". However, if there is absolutely nothing there, just be friends and let him find someone who thinks he's the hottest thing ever.

Answer 5

I think it's very thoughtful of you to consider this question. There are a lot of nice guys out there that may not instantly get your attention. Some of them are worth at least one chance. But if you've been around him a bit and don't feel anything special, then perhaps you should move on.

Answer 6

Its superficial, but that's your deal. Sometimes you might be really into a preson, but the physical attraction just isn't there. If there is an attraction, but he just isn't hot ENOUGH then yeah thats kinda crappy on your part. But if there is no attraction, then thats just how it goes and you can't force yourself to find him attractive. However, over time his personality may actually win you over completely so that his looks become less important.

Answer 7

Why does he have to be hot for you to date him? If you like him and he is cute and has good qualities then that should be good enough. Who are you trying to impress? What would you rather have? The hottest guy in the world who will cheat on you and disrespect you or the decent looking guy who will love you everyday and treat you right? Looks do not give you everything.

Answer 8

that is just a typical femal thing. Meet a nice guy but find the one flaw and thats it--look for someone new. If he is not perfect then he is no good. I guess it isn't wrong but just a female's trait.

I'm sure if he was rich you would of overlooked his "hottness"
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Answer 9

Its ok. And its also ok not to like a guy because he is broke. If he can't pay his own bills don't waste your time. And don't let anyone tell you this is shallow. It's not the woman's job to take care of a loser boyfriend. BOTH parties should be responsible and independent.

Answer 10

Heather. All this means is you are searching for someone physically attractive. If he has more important qualities, you might consider him, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.