Im mexican and thanks God i have a great life in my country, my boyfriend is American and he lives in Miami, im feel very scare because i know nobody there, the only reason for me right now is just my love for him about moving the U.S. im gonna be away from everything that i love, i really need advices how to be strong and dont give up.
2007-02-05 11:18:05 · 20 answers · asked by Giovanna P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is perfectly normal to be scared but it will be a wonderful experience for you..I hope you are very happy and meet lots of friends..Miami is a wonderful place.
2007-02-13 05:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. You did not mention how you met or how long you known him. I would say if you have never been to Miami come as a visitor 1st. Have him help you with a place to stay THAT IS NOT HIS PLACE. IF he really loves you, he would help you do it. If he can't help you, you will see how gripped he his financially and have some ideal what level of life you will be living with him, IE. hand to mouth, fine enough, or living large. Above all, make sure all your papers are in order. Try to stay at least 3 months. Then you may have a chance to see what he is like on a day to day basis(if you don't know already). And when you do come have him set up an account that only YOU can access with enough money to go back to Mexico with should things go South in the relationship. You don't want to get here and have prince charming become Attila the Hun. Sorry to say, he is American. It may never happen but it could happen in as little as 3 weeks he Will get bored, you would get old and common to have around, and he will want to move on, or cheat. Don't get stuck. If he loves you, he will provide you a backdoor of escape.
2007-02-13 09:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly natural to be scared. I would be terrified to visit a new country let alone move to one. If you are in love with your boyfriend and you both are 100% sure that you want to move in with each other, everything will be fine. You will adapt. You will meet new people, you will make new friends, you will find other things that you will love. Your boyfriend will be there for you to help you meet new people and help you to adapt.
One thing that you could possibly do is search the internet about where u are moving and become familiar with the place or have your boyfriend send you pictures of where you will be living so you won't be overwhelmed. That way you will have a good idea of your surroundings before you get there.
I wish you luck on your journey and with your new place.
2007-02-13 08:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be your answer do you want to move just to come to America or is it that he "loves" you what happens to you when he dumps you . you need to make sure its real first if he wants you he will marry you make sure he is not just trying to get the goodies between you legs and if he is really in love with you he must get you the proper papers to enter the united states everyone must have a us passport or the right visa to enter now since September 11 this guy is only your boyfriend he may not be the hombre you thought some guys move you far away from the family and friends and then all holy hell breaks loose and if he beats on you or dumps you while in Miami where will you work what will you do for food or house Miami is not a cheap place to live and they have a high rate of prostitution of you Spanish girls from your homeland where some gringo or other hombre said mommy es Tu mi carazon don't fall for it at least if you have the proper papers you can live right or if he is you husband and marries you at the American consulate where my country will recognize the marriage to a foreign person from your country you will have rights otherwise stay were you are nothing is better than having family to rely on when things go bad
2007-02-05 11:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by lilladyt34 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He won't change, and if he doesn't want to be the father, there isn't much you can do. If you don't want to abort the baby, then you have to deal with the fact that he won't be in the picture, and decide if you are finanically responsible and mature enough to be a single mother, if not, adoption is a beautiful thing. You don't want someone around your child like that anyway. You are stronger than you think, you don't need a man to complete you, you are enough on your own to be a strong person.
2016-05-24 19:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be aware that Cubans are not Mexican, so don't expect them to bond with you right away. Miami, despite what people see on TV is really segragated.
Black
Haitian
Cuban
Jamaican
Columbian
Asian
White
Etc..
All that and everyone hates each other. They live in seperate areas and they are broken down as such. It can still be fun there, but like I said, it could take some time.
2007-02-05 11:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly to Grown Lady, before you dispense advice about language skills, shouldn’t you be able to spell? The spelling is ADVICE and ADVISE.
It is understandable that you are nervous, you are leaving all that you know and doing so for love. Relocating will mean that you will be relying on your boyfriend to be your best friend, your lover, your support network. He will be all you have for a while.
You are taking a big step onto unsure ground. Tell him how you feel, get to meet his friends and their girlfriends as soon as possible and get a network of friends going. This will be hard for both of you, but things that are worthwhile doing are never really easy. Good Luck!
2007-02-13 05:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your putting a lot on the line for a boyfriend. What about moving to the U.S. for something you want besides this guy. I am concerned if it does work out and you marry, that your children will lose out on a close relationship with their grandparents on your side.
On the positive, you can truly reach any level of success you are willing to pursue here. If you are strong and tenacious the possibilities are unreal. We don't really have a cast system so you can reach for the stars.
2007-02-05 11:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by MirandaPen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those scared feelings you're having? They may be your intuition kicking in... don't suppress these feelings. Reconsider the move. Miami is not an easy place to live and if you love your current lifestyle and enjoy being with your family, then stay put! Love does NOT conquer all.
2007-02-05 11:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm Mexican and I completely understand you, but don't be afraid this country has alot of good opportunities to offer so take advantage of them. I came here 20 yrs. ago and I'm a professional now. Good Luck!
Se fuerte te acostumbraras a vivir en este pais, especialmente por tener el apoyo de tu novio. En menos tiempo de lo que tu pienses tendras muchas amistades. Buena suerte. Yo tengo mucho tiempo en este pais y soy una profesional. Y si no funsiona lo de tu relacion te regresas a tu pais segun tu no tienes necesidad de estar en este pais, lo estas haciendo por amor.
2007-02-13 09:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋