i've been with my boyfriend almost 1 year this month on the 22nd. and i love him with all my heart,i've done so much for him. and now he does very little for me,i even moved out of my grandma's house just to be with him. and i bought him a cell phone so we could talk while i'm in the hospital,which is a lot. and he doesn't even call me that much and when i call him he always makes up excuses why he can't talk. i want to believe him,but something tells me that there may be another girl that he's talking to while i'm here. i've been here almost 4 months, and i just can't take it anymore. what do i do? please help me.
2007-02-05 11:10:13 · 15 answers · asked by rreever_mzcoronax 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to sit him down and ask him straight out "How much do you love me?" and after he gives his answer, you should ask "Then how come you *insert action here*?"
You see, men don't think all romantically like women do, women (this is going to sounds odd) behave more like puppies and men like cats in some relationships. He might be shy, secretvie, or might not know what to say. Ask him about this "other girl" you said.
In normal conversation, say somethign about yourself and ask "don't you agree?" and listen to what he says.
It could also be that he's getting bored with you, or that you guys's relationship is in a slump which will either clear up or haze down even more. Either way, I think he may be just shy.
Me hopes me helped =D
2007-02-05 11:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is showing signs of losing interest, but maybe he's just going through a thing as a result of your being in the hospital so long. But you would think this would be the time that he would really be there for you. I would take the suggestion made about not calling him for a couple days and see what happens. That usually gives you a pretty good indication of where you stand.
2007-02-05 11:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Stevie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like such a loveable person, I can't imagine why he wouldn't want to love you with all of his heart. Maybe he has problems which are too complex for him to share with you. He may be the kind of guy who has difficulties trusting people or perhaps, he is in something very dangerous and out of his love for you, does not want you to get hurt or involved.
Be patient and take care of yourself. Be willing to accept that there is a chance he may not love you as much as you him but always be weary that something else may be happening in his life that is preventing him from given you all of his passion.
2007-02-05 11:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww that must be frustrating i'm sorry i think you should (after you get back from the hospital) is go to his house don't tell him and just say why haven't you been talking to me lately whats up with you if he makes up another excuse dump him and find a real man to be witht i'm sure if you do that much for you r man you will find a man in no time he shouldn't be treating u like thatr
hope everthing goes alright
xoxoxo
Jollie
2007-02-05 11:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are paying his cell bill, get a copy of the calls he places......that will answer all for you. Good Luck! Why are you in the hospital? Are you a nutcase? Maybe he is better off since he needs to be serviced and you are not around doing your duty!
2007-02-05 11:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman do not be his door mat. If you think there is anther woman simple when he gets his next phone bill look at the # if you see one its been called a lot that is not family or his friends talk to and confront him. but wit love I believe he loves you,men show it differently than woman, my husband always makes sure my car has gas in it, he telling he loves me, he took me yesterday and saw the magician David Copperfield, that love. Love Is Action there are not words
2007-02-05 11:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run quick he is breaking your heart. he cant buy his own cell phone , thats a red flag too. get out now he is using you. im old enought to know the signs. you are asking which means you have already felt the clues dont worry its not you. he is emotionally unavaialble. get another you cant fix this kind he looks for fool girls. dont be one for him.
2007-02-05 11:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by jennie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he has lost interest. It may be hard for you, but it may be time for you to cut your losses and move on to somebody more deserving of what you have to offer.
2007-02-05 11:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by Nicholas J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i hope that he nots cheatin on u cause that would be messed up ... I say just ignore him a couple of days and see if he responds to that , ok , Good luck.
2007-02-05 11:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by I_luv_my_kids<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You so need to read "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus." Don't wait any longer. Guys do NOT think like women.
2007-02-05 11:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋