ok hi so I have a bf and well we adore eachother but we are teenagers here he is always trying to kiss me and hug on me and stuff... I hug on him and stuff but sometimes I refuse kissing him BUT when I get home I regret not kissing him... IDK if I'm just scared or what .... I absolutely adore him and love him so much though
2007-02-05 11:04:25 · 20 answers · asked by apbudge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and he is always joking about sex
2007-02-05 11:21:34 · update #1
lol, i have the same problem only the other way around. My boyfriend and I do the same thing, but, I want to kiss him, but he's absolutley frightened about the idea of a kiss. He stated a few reasons for me. He said that he doesn't want to risk getting caught and losing me (his mom's kinda strict), and he said he also thought that he "wouldn't be good at it" (don't ask) I think he mgiht even feel that same way you do.
anwyay, enough about that, back to you,
I think that you are just a little uneased about kissing, maybe your parents are strict too, or maybe you just don't feel ready for the heavy resoncibility of a FULL relationship. Plus, once you start kissing (another point my bf brought up), then your going to start making out, then you guys will end up having sex (not good).
I suggest you wait for a few months, and if you REALLY want to kiss him back, go for it =)
me hopes me helped =D
2007-02-05 11:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you think you're scared of? Is it physical intimacy? If so, you are one of a select few. Most teens give out hugs and kisses like it's going out of style! Your boyfriend needs to know how you feel. Be careful not to bruise his ego (it's so easy to hurt a guy's feelings!); just tell him you don't feel comfortable kissing him at this point in time. If he truly cares for you, he'll understand. The two of you probably just need to slow down, take things easy, and back off on the kissing for a while. When you feel ready to take the next step, go ahead and kiss him :)
2007-02-05 11:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by janeowyn180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm a boy but... if i was you i would just give it time, soon you'll want to hug and kiss each other more and more, when it comes it comes, it's a normal thing in those kinds of relationships. it will all work out, just wait for the right time to do those things. try to explain that to him, when the time comes the time will come. until then, don't rush, try little petty kisses and hugs.
2007-02-05 11:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Matt B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be a bit young and not ready for what he as a guy is ready for, but age is not maturity and what your head is saying is what you should listen to. And your head is saying "what should I do when he wants more than a kiss?" So don't ever do anything more than you are comfortable with and if his trying to kiss you after you make it clear you don't want to be kissed, then he isn't considerate of your feelings, and you want to be careful with him.
2007-02-05 11:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush or be pressured into anything, he should be o.k. with just hugging and cuddling if he isn't then maybe you should think twice about being with him. You'll have plenty of time to kiss later on just wait until you're comfortable with it
2007-02-05 11:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,you just sound scared everyone is scared having their 1st kiss even if they dont admit it,just remember take your time unitl u r comfortable and remember you are only young and have the rest of your life,if he loves you he will understand you are nervous and he will wait till you are ready.you are only young once dont rush !!!
2007-02-05 11:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by sharon c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kiss him girl and if you don't want to in public then go around a corner
2007-02-05 11:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by Samboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you actually are, but I don't see anything wrong with kissing OR with not kissing. If you want to, go ahead, but don't feel pressured into it if you aren't ready.
2007-02-05 11:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by wonderer152 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like smoking you're going to be miserable around it. Find another person to date who doesn't smoke. We all have our little pet peeves. If you can get around the smoking, then do it, otherwise, move on.
2016-05-24 19:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, just tell him you aren't sure if you want to kiss and let him know when you want to or just kiss him.
2007-02-05 11:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋