my ex finished with me 4 weeks ago over an argument at work. She was with me for 8 weeks and got with me 4 weeks after leaving her 4 year bf. Over the past 8 weeks i have been with this girl i treated her like a princess, spoilt her with gifts i was tooo nice 2 her. Now wen i ask her to get back with me she says she likes me, she fancies me, and has got feelings for me but can only give me friendship for now. i really really like her what do i do ??? i used to txt her and ring her often, and now i have stopped doing that. i have not txt her for 2 days now and she hasnt either, my ex gf doesnt usually send sms first nobody, even if her best mate doesnt txt her she doesnt txt either. i want to give her some space but also find out if shes ok, how many days or weeks after should i txt to see if shes ok and if she is feeling different ? Also her parents are on holiday for a week so i know show wont miss my attention as much because she is enjoying her self while her parents are away! help
2007-02-05 10:59:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only time will tell.
2007-02-05 11:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think you can be just friends with someone you obviously have such strong feelings about? If you can honestly answer that with a firm yes then maybe the best you can hope for in this instance is friendship. She seems adamant about not wanting to be involved romantically with you. So move on date others and who knows if she does have feelings which involve more than just friendship she will let you know. Don't put your life on hold live a little
2007-02-05 11:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate i know exactly how u feel im in the same boat. it sounds to me that you mite still have a chance try playing it cool do not txt or ring her no matter how much you want to let her come to you and if she dos'nt then you will know where you stand. 4 yrs is a long time to be with someone and to jump into another relationship is a big deal u dont wanna be her rebound bloke good luck you sound like a really nice guy i wanna date you myself
2007-02-05 11:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by SHY1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you work with her, right? So I wouldn't text her or call her right now. Chances are she wasn't quite ready to get back into a relationship after such a long term one. She needs a little space. If you want to see how she's doing, ask her at work. Be her friend for now, she'll let you know when she's ready for something more and by showing her that you're supportive of this and are willing to be her friend, she'll respect you even more.
2007-02-05 11:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by aolani_dragon_3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this, but too many gifts and calls/texts etc is one surefire way to put someone off. i doubt she split up with you because of the argument at work, that merely served as the excuse to break it off because you smothered her (with the best of intentions of course) the only possible chance you have is if she see's you appearing to be getting on with your life and you look like you're quite happy without her...then she MIGHT think "oh...the shoe is on the other foot" and get a hankering for you but if she thinks your waiting on tap like some drooling hound, no chance...and if this sounds like playing games, i'm sorry but basic relationship psychology...theres a bunch of books out there on the subject, from all different viewpoints which may open your eyes and appall you at the same time (the rules, men are from mars, the essential difference, double your dating).
i'm sorry if this sounds harsh but i am trying to help, thats my opinion and thats why we are all here..
good luck, be strong...and this pain will help you long term!
2007-02-05 11:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by emil_marzbar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this sounds like she isnt that interested in you. Maybe when you guys were seeing each other, you shouldn't have spoiled her b/c some girls don't like that. Give her space and if she really likes you more then a friend she'll come back to you. Until then, just be a man and move on and just be friends.
2007-02-05 11:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by C-No Evil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my god i have just looked at all your questions and every one is more or less asking the same thing!!! you must really like her.i think you should get over her mate and move on!!!! if she wants to be friends then just let it be.maybe shes saying she fancies you so that she doesnt hurt your feelings.sorry but its true
2007-02-05 11:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by xloux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not. She finished with you right? So, you'd have to try and change her mind...unlikely you could do that I'm afraid. We've all been there, i know it is hard but get on and live again good luck
2007-02-05 11:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea.
Snatch her ugly a s s off the streets, take her to a lock up somewhere, beat her till she loves you again.
2007-02-05 11:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by ben b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god! how old are you? chill out!! go out!! enjoy your self!! i know i sound 100 but honestly, in about five minutes you'll be 35 and laughing at this (i am not 35 by the way) please go and find a friend and have a laugh, now!!!
2007-02-05 11:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by STACEY H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It possible. Just try and u might get her back. Good luck my friend and i am trying to get my ex bac, so i feal your pain.
2007-02-05 11:05:46 · answer #11 · answered by super_nole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋