It is only a weeks notice... He has encouraged me to stay and spend time with them... he suggested 3 months. That is so long to be away from him. I do trust him...i just want to know that this has worked out for others...or am i making a mistake by letting him go to a new city without me
2007-02-05 10:36:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do what you feel is right.
Good Luck
2007-02-05 10:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not making a mistake by letting him go to another city with out you. If you trust him, then you know he is going to be good to you. I had the same thing happen to me, and I didn't go with him. He left for 6 months, to work in another city, before he came back home. He probably came home 4 times during the 6 months and I went over there twice. It wasn't easy, but it made me appreciate him more. He left because I made him go. he had an awesome job opportunity in another city, to be on contract for 6 months, that paid extremely well. He didn't want to go, but I convinced him that in the long run it would be for the best. And it was because from that job he made all the money that we are investing into our new house! it may seem like a long time, and its hard, but it will make you evaluate your relationship and realize just how vital you are to each others existance.
Good luck!
2007-02-05 20:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Yessi H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tricky situation. Family or your husband-to-be? But what I think you should do is maybe consider it a test. Give it a month, perhaps, and if you both still feel the same way, (you should be able to trust him) move with him. Let him get settled in a month and see where things are. It'll all work out for the best.
2007-02-05 18:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Emirii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to remember that when you guys are married, your rightful place will be with your husband, and not your family. If his job takes him elsewhere, you should go with him (and vice versa if you're the main breadwinner). Being that you're not married yet, I'd say you could do it either way, if you're currently living together, then do it, if not, then you might want to hold off moving with him. Let him get settled, then follow. You don't want to add the stress of just moving in together with the stress of him starting a new job.
2007-02-05 18:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is a lil long. i suggest about a month. stay with your family and then go and surprise him in his new city. he'll love it. and you are maried yet so the relationship is still delicate. but he trusts you and therefore you should trust him. especially if you are going to marry him. i think that everything will work out fine.
best of wishes!
2007-02-05 18:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by marine's girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you can go if you wanted.. You stay with your family too.. You can fly to him or he can fly back to you.. It not mistake.. It not like you guys do not trust each other.. You fly to see him on weekends.. But remember you be having wedding at your where you live (state) because everyone you know live where you at.. and It new state you do not know anyone.. You would have to make new friends but right now you should stay with your family and spend time with them until you are marry...
2007-02-05 18:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be able to see in how he deals with this unavoidable, long-distance engagement whether he handles it well or not. Assume he will. I do know that LD relationships are hard, but do work out. How far from the wedding date were you when this came through?
I am impressed that he urged you to spend that time with family yet. It shows that he is not super possessive.
2007-02-05 18:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him, and he obviously trusts you, then you should do just fine. The one time I tried a long-distance relationship it did not work but I was way too young and immature for it TO have worked. Maybe just take a month and take care of what you need to do then join him.
2007-02-05 18:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being kind by suggesting that you stay with your family.
But by becoming betrothed you have acepted the responsibilities that go with being married. And even though women are usually much closer to her family then men, your loyalty should lie with him, and no other. No one or nothing should come before that one special person.
2007-02-05 19:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two thoughts:
If you're involved enough with him to marry him, then being apart for a short while won't hurt. On the other hand,
If you're putting your family ahead of your husband-to-be, then you're not ready to get married.
2007-02-05 18:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by OR1234 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, I would go ahead and move with him and then come back to visit.
2007-02-05 18:40:38 · answer #11 · answered by zyllee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋