im a single father of 3 they are all still in diapers and i just recently became single. Am i going to have to lower my standards, or are there women out there that can handle this? btw im 27 if that matters.
2007-02-05 10:36:25 · 13 answers · asked by Fatherjml 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thx for the answers, i know the kids are my main focus, but i guess i cant help but wonder about the future lol.
2007-02-05 10:44:52 · update #1
You'll probably do better with a woman who already has children.
Just looking at my age group (I'm 25), only one of my friends would date a guy with children. It isn't so much because kids are bad, but he's a guy with a lot of responsibilities, and there's that possibility of her taking on some of those responsibilities (at least in theory, depending on how you parent). Not only are there time restrictions, and possible visitation restrictions, but each person has their reasons.
There are women who don't have children, who wouldn't mind dating a man with children, as long as he was a good father (and not trying to turn her into the babysitter/maid). However, it's the same situation with men who don't want to date a woman with children. It goes both ways you know.
LOL... don't give up hope though. I have two, and I have never had a problem dating. And personally, I would rather date a man with children, as I feel he would be able to better relate to and understand my situation, as well as the requirements parenthood. Someone else with kids will understand when those children have to come before they do. SOME people without children don't understand as well when they can't come first.
2007-02-05 10:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Carmen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very few women can handle your 3 babies, all in diapers. but that does not mean you must lower your standards. unless, of course, the only standards that you have are how a woman "looks."
you see, you did not state what your standards are. so how can i help you on that one?
probably you will find a very nice woman that is a single mother herself. does she qualify for "lowering your standards?" why? gee, if you are a single father and you find a nice woman that is a single mother, what is wrong with that?
the only standards that i'd have if i lived in your life would be that she isn't an alcoholic or druggie and that she is neither abusive or neglectful of children. do you think that such a woman will fit your standards?
your age doesn't mean a hill of beans. what will matter is that you will put her on a pedestal. you will treat her like a lady and you will treat your babies like they are children. the rules will be set down by you and she, as a team. what else will matter as time goes on is that you make it so that your kids respect her and obey her. their love should go to their mother, but their respect has got to go to their stepmother, the one that handles matters of the hearth.
2007-02-05 18:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I met my husband when he was 27, he had three children, two in diapers. I fell in love with all of them, and we've all been together for 17 years. I raised his kids, and love them as though they were my own. We were apart for 3 of those 17 years, but are back together now. I have no regrets. There is someone out there for you hun, I promise. Don't jump into things though, you want to be sure she's the right one, and CAN handle it. If you find a woman who ends up not being good to your kids, then get rid of her. You will need a woman who loves kids and wants to love yours. Your kids come first. Take care and good luck to you!
BTW....I don't have children of my own. It is not a must that you find someone already with children.
2007-02-05 18:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww....how cute is that! There is hope for you...hell, if my cousin has a man and she has six kids...then you can do it, hon. Just be patient. You just recently became single and for your kids sake, you should spend time healing (especially with those babies of yours) and less time worrying if there is any one out there for you. If it is meant to happen, then it will. And you're still young, so focus on those kids and do what you can to take care of them and if a lady is in your plans, then she'll come around! Good luck and thank God for those babies of yours....they should be the only ones you're thinking about right now...not whether or not you've still got it. Good luck, again!
2007-02-05 18:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Emerald 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do, alot of women love kids especially younger kids, if she likes you i'm she knows that it's a package, you and your kids not just you. Women out there do accept that. You just let them know that from the get go so if they are not interested, you know from the begging. The throw a bombshell on them out of nowhere.
2007-02-05 18:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by MANICAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet would be a single mother. A childless woman would be more likely to want to have a honeymoon phase, which you aren't likely to get w/3 babies. I also wouldn't be in a hurry to add to the family, you've got enough on your plate.
2007-02-05 18:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Taffy Saltwater 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be fine with it. I have a 9 year old. I would love an instant family if he were the right guy.
2007-02-05 18:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure someone will love you and your three children !! there are woman who would do great loving your children and you , make sure they really love your little ones watch interaction between them kids are very perceptive
2007-02-05 18:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can look to see what you can find.
Good Luck
2007-02-05 18:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe depends on ur luck
2007-02-05 18:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋