My 14 month old daughter will not sleep all night in her crib. We've tried eveything, I've read a bunch of books, but she wakes up every night just a few hours after she went to bed and the only way she will sleep is if I take her to bed with me. Any one have a similar experience or have any helpful advise? Thanks.
2007-02-05 10:21:18 · 16 answers · asked by Abby 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My three sons were all like that. They do grow out of it I promise. Just takes time and try having the same routine every night. She just feels more secure with you mom. My boys are 18,16,and 8. Enjoy her they grow up too fast. Also you will have a special bond with her and she will know you are right there for her. Good luck.
2007-02-05 10:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by C E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it.
That being said-if you are going to let her sleep with you anyway, why do you bother putting her in her own bed/crib? And if she is in a crib-why? She is old enough for a toddler bed all her own, isn't she? Maybe you could take her & let her choose her own big girl bed? That may help.
Otherwise, my advise to you is let her cry. Eventually, she will wear out & sleep on her own. It's awful, but it is what we had to do with mine. If you put her in her crib & you know she is safe & can't be hurt, then turn on her night light, leave the door cracked, and leave the room. If that doesn't work, leave the house. (I don't mean get in the car & drive to Taco Bell, but go outside & have a stroll far enough away that you can't hear her.)
Good luck to you, and again, I don't see anything wrong with you co-sleeping! It's a wonderful time, this toddlerhood, and you won't get it back! Enjoy her while she will still claim you as her parent!
2007-02-05 10:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feels like i should be the one asking this question..... lol.... i did that with my son who is now 22 months old and wont sleep on his own for nothing...... When i had him, my hubby worked 3rd shift so i wasn't able to put him in the crib due to the fact that i had a c-section and had trouble getting up to breastfeed when he cried at night so it was better for the both of us if he slept in the same bed..... BIG mistake...... At 7 months we tried putting him in the crib but I was the one who couldn't separate from him, (he was my first child) now i have the crib in my room and right next to my bed so we told him when he gets scared he can crawl into bed with us..... now he sleeps in his crib/toddler's bed... the next step for us would be moving his bed into is own room.... good luck
2007-02-05 11:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by molly_tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age, I was still breastfeeding my daughter on demand so when she cried at night she would come into my bed for a feed and a cuddle until she was asleep.
My reasoning was that she was only going to be that small once, so I was going to enjoy her. If that meant she shared my bed, then so be it. Before we know it, our children aren't going to want to be around us all the time, so make the most of the time when they do.
Don't feel bad for co-sleeping. If it works, and you are comfortable with it, go ahead, and don't listen to anyone who says you are doing things wrong...after all, this will let your baby know that you are always going to be there for her and that she can depend on you.
These are months that you aren't ever going to get back, so you may as well make them enjoyable!
2007-02-05 10:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I have a 4 year old son and am 7 months pregnant with my second.. I don't recommend co-sleeping because it turns in to a bad habit. I used to have cuddle time with my son but we made him sleep in his own crib. A technique that works well is put your child in the crib and sit in the room with them until they fall asleep. Don't talk to them, I know it sounds mean and they may cry but they have to learn to put themself to sleep by themself. This will probably be difficult at first, and you might be sitting with the baby for 2 hours in the room but eventually it will work and you and your daughter will have much easier, restful nights
2007-02-05 10:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by jade_island4 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not do it , it is the worth thing you can do, at that age they age very clever and quickly work out what they want. Once she gets used to sleep in your bed , you have a huge problem !
My neighbor did the same with her son , now he demands to sleep in her bed all the time - he is 6 years old !
Unless there is another reason ? She could be cold or wants another drink. A warm milk and a warm sleeping bag - worked on mine .
Hope it helps
2007-02-05 10:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, I've been there! I wanted to co-sleep, but my husband said no for a few reasons. Safety, his personal fear of rolling over on her, and our marriage space. My daughter is the same age and I finally bit the bullet in December and worked it out (despite MY apprehension). I think that there are few toddlers who happily just hang out and sleep all night without Mom or Dad. But in the end we're all happier (not to mention, rested) if we push the issue. Let her cry it out. Your daughter is older, like mine, so she'll get it quick. I bet, if you keep up with the consistant bedtime routine, you could be sleeping through the night by next Monday. We give our daughter a sippy cup of water. It's natural for all of us to waken during the night. Let her cry. At first it will seem like FOREVER, but the time she spends crying will quickly dwindle. I still sometimes hear our daughter in there at night making noise, but she goes right back to sleep. With my first, it was like torture for me to listen to her, and since my husband was home, I'd go for a walk...even at 1 AM. Good luck to you!!! Happy ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ's
2007-02-05 10:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you've already got the right outlook on all of this. My suggestion it to easily see how she does once he leaves. Do what your intestine is telling you is acceptable for the both truly one of you. My a million year previous co-sleeps with me besides. i will imagine how not ordinary it truly is to awaken contained in the approach the nighttime and not in any respect have her precise with assistance out of your area. Having no longer had Gabriel sleep on his personal for a lengthy time period i will't really say what i ought to do, yet when he did not ideas being in his infant mattress i'd ought to easily go away him there and spot how issues bypass. best of success!
2016-11-02 10:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 5 years old and sleeps right in the middle of me and my husband people think we are nuts but we would not have it any other way. I feel safer knowing he is right next to us. Eventually at some point we will have to put him in his own room but for now we have him with us. When we need private time we go into our guest bedroom. NO PROBLEMS at all.
2007-02-05 12:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by C S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first daughter slept w/ us untill she was 21 months old, I finally got her out when my husband come home after being away for a month (in the military) and I spent the first 3 nights he was home sleeping on the couch, thats when I had enough I put her in her room, I did our regular nightly routine, then I closed the dore, It took about 3 nights of crying but after that she was fine.
2007-02-05 12:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by medleyc1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋