irritable bowel syndrome is a very sensitive intestine wherein she can only eat limited food and it's a lifetime disease, she would easily get diarrhea out of nowhere. she has a very humble personality. she is religious. she is talented, sings and write songs, witty, smart and a consistent A+ student, a listener, trustworthy, kind, and thoughtful? would you date this woman?
she's my friend... and lately she opened up to me how she feels unwanted and nobody seems to want to date her. she's wondering why nobody asks her or come to her. she opened up to me about how guys just treat her as a friend or a little sister, or someone they could trust with their problems about their girlfriends.
2007-02-05 10:17:56 · 14 answers · asked by terra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In order to date someone it is not just how we look. Confidence does so much more. You have to have self-esteem to get people to notice you. You could be Trya Banks but if you don't like yourself people can see that that you don't and will not gravitate towards you naturally. Your friend needs to believe in herself. That has to come from within. That can take time to build too. IBS is not even close to the end of the world. It is something she will have to live with for the rest of her life but there at things she can do ease its affects, through diet, treatment, exercies, etc... Your friend is not IBS nor does that define who she is. She is herself, I am sure she is a beautiful person. Help her see that she is not her diease. That is a part of her and she should embrace it, but not let it rule her. Many people are affected by this.
One famous pop singer comes to mind that I know of that has IBS. That is Anastacia. Not only does she live with IBS she is a breast cancer survivor. Look what she has done with her life. Have your friend look her up on the internet and listen to her music if she has not all ready. She is very inspirational and wonderful person.
Dating is so hard. I think to successfully date somone you have to love yourself first. This is something I learned over time. It did not just happen for me. Now I can wake up and say I truly love myself and I love how I am and how I look. You know what, people around me agree and want to get to know me on all levels. Help your friend she her for her and not what is on the outside only or what health issues she is living with. Beauty helps, but we are all beautiful. We just have to find our niche and our style to show who we are.
2007-02-05 10:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gender : Male Age : 26 years Height: 6 foot 4 inches Weight: 265 pounds We might look a little mismatched, but sure I'd date her, and I'm sure we'd have fun, fate may just have us hit it off. Good Luck - God Bless
2016-05-24 19:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse. All the things you mentioned about her health is no big deal. Many people have something off about there bodies but that doesn't make them any less attractive physically or mentally. My wife is 5'0", weighs 110 (ah, nice and dainty) and gets ichy skin a lot. But she uses the right skin creams to fix that. She also gets bad coughs when the weather changes dramatically, but none of this changes how cute she is. Your friend will find a good guy, she just has to have self confidence. My wife is a strong minded woman. Where kind of both Alpha's....alpha male is me, alpha female is her.
2007-02-05 10:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she needs a girlfriend makeover! She just needs to feel good about herself....those problems are not her fault and the fact that she got them doesnt make her any less of a person. Millions of people have their own problems to even really care about that kind of thing....she could come up with another reason for not eating at certain restaraunts and such, like say she's a vegetarian, or whatever....there are ways around this sort of embarassing problem, but she just needs some confidence...so its up to YOU - HER GIRLS to make her feel wanted again......so do what you need to do, she's gonna need a new sexy outfit, doesnt matter her size, but find her something that flatters HER..and makes her look amazing....then take her out for a night on the town, make her feel special...dont let her get depressed over this!! (btw, you are a good friend for wanting to help her) Good luck!
2007-02-05 10:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by spaceyinla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given her size, many guys may assume she is underage and therefore off limits to them. She may need to start letting the guys know she is available by asking them out. At 80 pounds she is a little thin for me personally but lots of guys like very skinny girls, I dont think the IBS should even be an issue.
2007-02-05 10:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terra, don't feel bad about yourself...Someday, someone will accept your bowel syndrome condition....As for the rest of the guys on this yahoo answer and I, we have to humbly decline our chances to be your boyfriend. I hope you won't hold any grudge against me or the rest of the guys.
Another thing, when you are in public, make sure you wear an odor proof diapper or something because diarrhrea can contaminate our city water supply as well as our fresh air to breathe.
I hope you understand my good intention.
Good health & good day!
2007-02-05 11:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget the bowel system...thats in the bathroom and no guys would see that.. i wouldnt care much but she weighs about 75 pounds which is half of mines and im 5,9.
i would be good friends and stuff but i dont think she'd want a guy that is twice the size of her and a guy with girl half his size..
maybe that is why most guys are " just friends" to her...
luckily,there are a hell lot of shorter/smaller guys out there
its all about finding the right person
2007-02-05 10:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya of course i would. is she cute? what's her potential? sometimes when women feel really undesirable they give up on their looks, and that gets worse and worse as time goes on. get a makeover, etc. she'll be back in the dating scene in no time.
and about the two "problems": short girls are super hot. and no one cares about whatever bowel syndrome or whatever. hell, i'd go out with a schyzophrenic girl if she was cute and nice and liked me.
2007-02-05 10:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by croato87 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe its cus shes SOOOO nice to everyone and so trusting that they see her more as a girl that will always be there for them no matter what and can always count/rely on her for things.....but i would deffiantly have to meet her to say if i'd date her cus it'd have to be someone that i could always have fun with and dont have to have a physical relation with
2007-02-05 10:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Brenden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive dated a girl with the same diagnosis. I just catered to it. Shop for the right things. I like to cook, so it was a challenge for me to do so.
2007-02-05 11:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Matt D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋