The guy's name is Eric. Don't get me wrong, I think he looks fine but There is nothing sexually appealing, crazy I know, But i'm bad at my own relation advice so I'v come to u. You see I Don't connect with him there but If i talk to him on the phone I connect with him 150%,and I feel like he's the one. on the other hand I have a guy I met thru a friend and we talk on the phone , his name is michael f., but I can't see him 'cause he's 45 miles away. He's very perverted,and I like that, and I feel a very strong sexual vibe from him, but no emotional vibe from him. The wierd thing is, when he moved to another state and I thought I would never see him again I would cried everyday, just burst out with no control ; anyway, I love 1 deeply emotionally and I love 1 deeply sexually......By the way the 1 I like emotionally wants a serious relationship. I neeeeeeeeed an answer a.s.a.p.
2007-02-05 10:10:43 · 9 answers · asked by kickasscutie171 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a guys point of view.....................kickasscu...first of all let me say that sex is an emotion....you didnt say how old you are...so im going to assume your underage...what i mean is, you not of a marrying age yet...the one sounds like a freak...not freaky...but a sex freak...are you ready for that kind of thing? you may not be prepaired for what he might be setting you up for...theres one thing about a guy and sex...we like to experiment...but some of the experimenting can get out of hand...s&m?...you ready for that? anial?...how bout that?...thats just to name 2...watch this guy...hes trouble...your liable to get into more trouble than you can handle...on the other hand...this other guy may be just what you need...A COMPANION...you have plenty of time to be sexual...enjoy someone...you dont have to have sex to be a friend...who knows, maybe this other guy may turn out to be mr. right...beeeeeeeeeee careful girl...good luck...
2007-02-05 10:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by hystericaly_kinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on just how important that is to you for a relationship to begin with. If the chemistry is all in talking on the phone why ruin a good thing? This sounds more like an obligation to pursue a relationship, perhaps because he likes you more, or a curiosity, than a genuine desire to be in a relationship with someone. If you can have that intense platonic relationship with someone there isn't any reason to ruin that if you're not attracted to them to begin with.
He may be a soul mate, or a kindred spirit, but if he were the one there would be some sort of attraction. The other guy could seriously hurt you though because you're confusing attraction and infatuation with something real. If he can easily get to you in that way, he can just as easily do so with someone else and probably already is for all you know. You would have to go into it with some level of emotional detachment you just don't have now to make it worthwhile.
2007-02-05 10:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you "love" either of them, dont use that word loosly. However, I like the Eric guy better. Emotions will carry you further than a sexual relationship. From a sexual relationship, all you'll get is sex, sex, more sex, probably an STD, possibly a child, and no boyfriend to help you out. Emotionally your relationship will become stronger and blosom, and the sexual attraction will form and progress with time. Before the sexual attraction starts, your relationship will be based on communication and feelings which gives a much stronger foundation for a lasting, meaningful relationship.
2007-02-05 10:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Katey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should seem obvious to anyone who reads this that you should go for eric. however, you just have to be honest with yourself. you can't flip a switch by will in order to feel something for someone if it's not there.
if you do go for eric and you just lead him on for a while and ultimately decide that he's not what you're looking for, that would end up hurting him more than if you choose a different path. you also have to think of the alternative. perhaps you will become sexually attracted to him through the emotions. the other guy, michael, doesn't sound like he's something that would create a long term relationship, but who am i to know? you have to go with your gut and your heart, but there is no reason to immediately decide... if you continue to spend time with eric, you will develop a friendship that may develop into something more. however, if nothing develops, at least you'll have made a friend. spend time with each other and try to spend time alone so that you have the time to decide.
2007-02-05 10:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Justin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER get in a relationship just for sex.
that's not a relationship...it's just a bang buddy.
if you want a real relationship, go for the guy that you feel an emotional connection with. the relationship will be 10 times better, and probably last longer. the sexual attraction will come later once you get to know each other better and feel more comfortable with one another.
but...don't enter a relationship for the sex, because after the sex is done...there's nothing left. you'll more than likely end up feeling lonely and used.
2007-02-05 10:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by Just a girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how old you are and what you want in a relationship, (obviously ) id take the sex one, cause chances are Eric wont last in the long term anyways. but i was watching doctor Phil the other day, and he said something about long term relationships don't have a spark initially it takes time to develop but the following relationship is built stronger because of the lack of initial sex. but when the spark does come, it will be brighter then anything that was around for a sex based relationship. so yeah , short term fun or long term future ?
2007-02-05 10:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bazza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a fifteen 365 days previous guy bodily attracted to: adult males: 50% women persons: 50% Sexually attracted to (intercourse): adult males: 70% women persons: 30% Sexually attracted to (kissing): adult males: ninety 5% women persons: 5% Emotionally attracted to: adult males: ninety 5% women persons: 5%
2016-10-01 11:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should go for it some boys might be hott but not nice i would defintely go for the simi cute and nice boys just ask him out on a friendly date but dont metion anything like i loke u while ur there.
2007-02-05 10:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yess go for himm =]
2007-02-05 10:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Maddy G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋