is she interested in me?

Question

I have been 'flirty' with a girl @ work for a few weeks now... and she flirts back.. One night she started talking to me on MSN - and opened up emotionally to me about being a 'lost soul' and how she really isn't who she appears to be (she is very cold to people @ work) and thinks we have the same problems etc. She ended 2 hours later saying she hopes we can chat again outside of work.

So, I ask her out - she agrees - BUT last minute, she has 2 friends come along too (a couple). I don't get much chance to talk on an 'emotional' level with her - its friendly chat between all. We hug (close,comfortable)@ the end of the night & I say I had a good time with her.

Last couple days she's said she'll call, but hasn't... I don't want to pressure her & create 'conflict' @ work since all this has been in the last 2 weeks

What is with the bringing friends to this? Is she looking at this as a friends only thing or ??? Should I ask her out again? But say her & I only this time? Help!

Answer 1

just wait to see her at work...dont call yet, let her call u. ger friends were probably a comfort factor for her w/ u, unless she was talkin to them and ignoring u the whole time..talk to her again at work, and try to ask questions that will create a reaction or how she feels bout the situation good luck

Answer 2

for starters, she brought the friends along as a safety net, not because she wasnt interested. the question that you need to be concerned with now is "is she SSTILL interested?" basically you got 2 options, you can ask her out again and tell her you'd like to get a chance to know her better and think it would be a good idea to be more one-on-one and do something less intimidating like minigolf OR you can just wait for her to call. if it's been more than 2 days i'd go with that first option so you wont be left hangin. also, before you offer the second date tell her you had a good time and if she's interested . . . etc and mention that you understand if she wants to avoid any akwardness at work this way if she HAS lost interested she doesnt have to feel bad about it and you wont feel too guilty about putting her on the spot.