Any way to get over a good freinds death?

Question

How do you get over a freinds death? When does the pain stop. How do you eat? How do you sleep? Tell me cause I have no clue.

Answer 1

I would like to say I'm sorry for your loss but I'm sure you already know that.
Long ago I lost my best friend in a car crash and at first I refused to believe it (I was a lot younger then).
Honestly, you can't get over a good friend's death, at least not yet. Despite how cold this sounds, you have to forget a little of their warmth to forget a little of the pain and that takes time.

You won't eat, you won't sleep and the pain only stops with time. If they were a great friend -a true friend- you will never be able to truly get over them. I didn't go to a shrink which is probably what most people will tell you to do -I find them so empty- but I found that my other friends were there for me. Family is comforting too.

No one can really tell you how to forget or how to deal; that's for you alone to decide. They can, however, help you and give you comfort where that friend was once there for you.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your lost. And I know its really hard to deal with. But you never get over the death of a friend. Because friends are suppose to last forever and then this happens. Then, how are ya suppose to go on without them? I know its hard, But the best thing to do is remember the good times you both had. Especially the real funny moments. It helps a lot. Remember all the good things you use to do together. Just keep remembering their good trates.
The sleeping and eating part will come back. Your body will let ya know when your done morning. But keep your chin up. I'm sure your friend won't want to see you this way. He/she would want you to be happy and yes I know, its hard to be happy at a moment like this. But try for your friend.
Again, I'm sorry for your lost and I do really hope things get better for ya.

Answer 3

Like the others, I am sorrry for your loss. I lost one of my best friends when I was in high school. Nothing anyone could do or say could make me feel any better. No one could feel the pain, the numbness, the sadness. I found writing helped me. Sometimes it didn't even make sense, I had a special book that I would just write what was going through my head, but I wrote it as if I was writing a letter to him. It was comforting and healing, as it was a message I was sending to him, and it was getting everything I was thinking and feeling out of my head and down on paper. I started writing in the book sometimes seven or eight times a day...and eventually, I didn't need to write in it. It has now become a symbol to me of how I made it through one of the most difficult times in my life, and since I made it through that, I can make it through anything. Time helps a lot... It will get easier to deal with, but it will never go away.

Don't shut others out, and don't be afraid to ask for help. Death is one of the hardest things for anyone ever to have to deal with and no one should ever have to deal with it alone.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say sweetie but the pain will never go away.... time will heal all wounds, but the pain will always remain. I wish I could tell you it will go away. Just remember the good times, keep your memories fresh. Maybe put together some sort of picture collage tribute or something that will help you to have some closure and remeberance.

The song Sarah Mclachlan sings "I will remember you" is my tribute song to my friend emily.... I lost her eight years ago, and I still cry just as hard as I did the day she left us. Maybe this song will help you to remember your friend.

I am soooo sorry you have to go through this, unfortunately it's one of those inevitable things in life we are never prepared to deal with. Just remember your mate is in a better place smiling down on you right now.

God bless <3

Answer 5

Well first and foremost I am sorry for your tragic death. My sister lost her very close friend a year and a half ago, and I remember she was crying and not taling at all. She was in her room the whole time. My advice is life goes on and of course it will take a while, but live life as it goes on and I know it's hard to let go, but just remember she will be with you always in your heart.

Answer 6

i have been fortunate enough not to lose any of my good friends but when i was in middle school the friend of one of my friends was shot and killed by her mother who killed her, her stepfather, her younger sister and then herself. i remember that grief counselors came to our school that day and had a memorial for her and comforted the other students. i highly recommed seeing a counselor who specializes in grief counseling or some sort of group therapy for people who have lost their loved ones. i couldn't imagine what you're going through, you must be very strong! good luck, i hope things get less painful for you over time.

Answer 7

when my dad passed away i was so depressed i thought my world stopped. but then to move on i had to think of him in heaven looking at me at all time.. this is the way he protects me and now my kids which he didnt see, but can see from heaven nw seeing over them at all times. like an angel from the Lord specially for us!

Answer 8

There is no way to get over it you simply have to force yourself to move on. Keep your friend in your thoughts and talk to others about them.

Answer 9

The only thing I can say is TIME.......take it day by day.......the worse part is sometimes I think it takes forever! I ended up getting a pet. IT HELPED TOO!

Answer 10

I THINK ABOUT ALL THE GOOD TIMES WE HAD, AND I TRY TO RELIVE THEM. I GO TO THE SPECIAL KIND OF PLACE WERE WE HUNG OUT OR TALKED. TRY TO HOLD BACK TEARS. BE STRONG!