Do you think that today a woman should still play hard to get, let a man make the first move, suggest another date or ring her first? The book "The rules" says you should but what do men really think about it?
Personally I hate hiding my feelings with men but tend to do it because I think it might be safer if I don't want him to loose interest . At the same time I feel very frustrated because I'd like to be able to show it if I can't wait to see him again.
On the other hand does this not hinder the athenticity of the relationship because I wouldn't want somenody to be with me mainly because I played hard to get either. After all it's manipulation.
2007-02-05 09:44:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys don't like to be chased,they like to chase!!!if you show them you care about them from the start,they lose interest!!if you call all the time,they take advantage of this and in the end you'll be their security blanket!!meaning,they'll run around have relationships and have you when they can't find anybody!!what always works??=ignore them,play hard to get,get them to call you every 5 mins.the more you snub them the more they want you!!
2007-02-05 09:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't have to play hard to get but you can't be too aggressive either. Women that are always calling and trying to be around we start to wonder whats up with the girl. But you can make the first move and chase a guy you just have to be able to back off at a moments notice.
2016-03-18 04:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That has been women's game, as somethinng cultural it is possible that we got fooled by this tactic after it has been played since... well long time ago, I would tell as man that I don't like easy girls but after a while would be nice if the girl show some interest if she really like the boy, and if it is sincere, and don't think the appreciation of the girl would got spoiled, I think many men notice when a girl is being honest, and is very attractive at least for me. the thing is that you don't keep playing the hard game.. what about boy's hard play?? my experience says that women don't stand being ignored for long, and they start to make even weird stuff, that's very nice.. and gets your ego very high. congratulations for start reflecting about it, sometimes it is painful, boring and disappointing to look all girls acting the same.
also sincere girls wolud attract sincere men
2007-02-05 10:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kooper Boy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's good for a woman to play hard to get, but not with the blushes and giggles "The Rules" will want you to try. Instead, try throwing a little attitude his way. Give off the impression that he's totally out of your league and he'll have to try REALLY hard to win you over. And stop reading "The Rules," for crying out loud. Pick up Sherry Argov's "Why Men Love Bitches" instead.
2007-02-05 10:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with playing hard to get (because most women over do it and come across as disinterested or rude), but no one wants someone who is too clingy or needy, either. If you show too much interest in the beginning of the relationship, you could give someone the impression that you are a potential stalker and scare them away.
2007-02-05 09:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys today are not as determine. If they were rejected a few times, they will give up. So, you may end up losing the guy if you don't know how to play "hard to get" tactfully.
2007-02-05 13:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tan D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't like a woman to play hard to get, because it makes me loose interest quick. To me, playing hard to get is a type of mind game. And I hate mind games with a passion!
2007-02-05 09:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by CSA_NP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate when girls play hard to get...if their gonna act like that then i'll leave them be...i hate games and if i'm direct that i wanna be with them then they should too or i take it as they dont even care so then i quit trying with them....playing hard to get just pisses guys off...it doesnt keep them interested. being interested in them is what makes them want u.
2007-02-05 09:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by mr_fury666 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think it depends on the guy you're with. Some guys like a challenge and some see it as just too much work.
2007-02-05 09:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be too aggressive at first and also don't air all your dirty laundry. "The Rules" should be banned as there are no definative rules for relationships, except the Golden One.
2007-02-05 09:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by live75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋