Stupid question.....How do I get my 17 year old son to stop smoking so much pot?

Question

If I could I would duck tape him to the wall.

Answer 1

The question isn't stupid at all. I'm sure you are very concerned about your son. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do to force him to stop smoking pot. You can, however, limit his access to phone, car, computer, cell phone, all the luxuries in your home, until he is willing to get help for his problem. If you know the friends who are also involved in the behavior, you can declare your home off limits to them. You can tell your son that he goes to and from school, period, and nowhere else. You may also want to get help for yourself, so you can cope with the situation. Try to be matter-of-fact with your son: tell him you are worried and that you will support him in getting help. Good luck, and God bless!

Answer 2

The real question is "Why does he think he can?"

The answer is pretty simple, he thinks he can because there is nothing stopping him. If he does smoke pot what's the worst thing he faces? You yelling at him? Grounding him? Gee, that's really bad. I wouldn't do something that feels GREAT if I got yelled at once in a while either. Wait, yes I would.

You need to sit him down, look him in the eye and say "Son, I know in the past I've let you down, I've told you to stop smoking pot but when you didn't I really didn't do anything. I'm really sorry about that. But I've decided to change that. In the future if I smell pot on you, find pot ANYWHERE in the house or car, or find anything that might be used to smoke pot you'll have 24 hours to find a new place to live. I really hope it doesn't come to that but your doing something illegal on my property and I'm responsible for it. I won't let your bad decisions affect my life that way. Good luck with this and if you need any help I'm here for you in any why that's legal. Just remember I'll love you no matter where you live."

Then go buy new locks for the house. He's going to do it again and you're going to have to throw him out.

If you're not willing to take this stand then accept that your kids smokes pot and quit nagging him to stop. It hasn't gotten you anywhere in the past and it won't in the future.

Answer 3

Well, I don't think there is anything wrong with an adult making the decision to smoke pot, but it isn't for children. Take his bedroom door away, do a clean sweep of his bedroom, search his *** when he comes home from school, and ground him until he can pass a drug test (they are about ten dollars at any drug store). Also, where is he getting the money to buy pot? Stop giving him an allowance. Don't even give him lunch money, pack a lunch for him. I don't agree with your husband, but at the same time if you stay on his back about it all the time he is just going to want to rebel more. Educate yourself about the REAL dangers of marijuana and then share that with him. You can also challenge him to do his own research on it so at least if he chooses to smoke it later in life, he will have made an educated decision. You both might learn some things you never knew. He needs to understand that while he is living under your roof, he has to follow your rules.

Answer 4

That is not a stupid question! Smoking pot is illegal! First, get him somehow to check out some sites and organizations that give facts out drug abuse. fcd.org is a very good organization; it stands for Freedom from Chemical Dependency. If possible, you can ask your school to have someone from the FCD to talk during school hours. If this doesn't work, then be the parent. Figure out where he's getting it from. Tell the police. Get your son into some sort of therapy or drug abuse group that can help him realize what he's doing and how to stop. Even if he calls you names and threatens and everything, it's your responsibility to protect him from this stuff. Duct taping won't help, either! You need him to realize for himself that what he's doing is so bad. You can put a horse near a bucket of water but it will only drink if it wants to.

Answer 5

How long has he been smoking pot? First he should not smoke any pot not "so much". I agree with most of posting, cut off all cash. Unfortunately from experience it isn't that easy. If possible, Scare him straight. Take him to a court room and let him listen to people getting sentenced for drugs and if your lucky see them show up in chains. It's an image most teens don't think will ever happen to them, but first hand look may change his mind.

Answer 6

Well being a recovered teenage pot head myself back in the days, and having a nephew who is a pot head now.. i can tell you that talking to him isn't going to make a world of difference. It is obivious that he hangs out with the wrong crowd, and the more you nagg, seems like the more they do what you ask them to stop doing.

Sometimes stubborn people like that, need a more tough love type of intervention. Perhaps a mentor, someone they can look up to- like dad, or an uncle or someone who would be a great male role model in your case, who can spend some time with him, shoot some hoops, or passes with football, or anything that might interest your son. At the same time, get him away from his friends, and use the time to talk to him, and help him start thinking about his future, and goals for his adult life. Start there....

Answer 7

As a parent, I would kill him. However, as much as I would like to, there is really no way to. However, he is 17, and that makes him a minor. I know you will take this hard, but if you find it in his room, call the cops. Let them arrest him. He will only get probation, but I am 100% sure that one of the conditions will be random drug testing. And if he is on probation, that last till 21, not 18. Maybe, just maybe, that will help him some. Honestly though, I do not think so. It will come down to HIM wanting to stop. This is a hard decision for you, And one I Hope never have to make. (Father of 5)

Good luck, and remember, after he is 18, you can not tell him what to do anymore, but you can still love him.

Answer 8

I'll tell you as long as my kids live in my house it is my rules. If they don't want to live by my rules then they can get their own place. Kick your son's sorry *** to the curb. When he calls you begging to come home because he is homeless tell him only if he stops smoking pot. To see if he is still smoking pot buy an over the counter drug test. You can get them everywhere. If he comes back positive after you letting him come home kick his sorry *** out again but the next time don't let him come back. You parents act like the kids control you instead of you controlling them...LOL

Answer 9

Please make him stop so there's more for the rest of us. Sit him down and ask him to cut down on his pot smoking. Try that as a first step. Demand that he pay rent, do more chores and perform in school. If he can manage a pot habit and get ahead in life (it is possible), then it's no worse than a few drinks every day. If all he does is smoke reefer and do nothing, then he needs a good kick in the butt.

Answer 10

stop buying it for him, If your son is only 17 and such a pot head, then he must not work much, so where does he get his money for it? either from you or he sells it. or how about being a real parent and telling as long as he is smoking pot which is not legal that he can't live with you, he is still a minor and you could be charged with contributing to a minor.