Are we being to greedy?

Question

we have a neice where we have to keep driving over to her place to get her daughter off the school bus and her place is like 20 min away but we don`t ever get anything for doing this. we don`t even get gas fair for driving out there. is this right?

Answer 1

I think your neice is thinking your family and it's part of being a family to help each other out. Are you in danger of not paying your light bill? Is she making more money than you are? Come on, in my opinon, you should stop thinking about "what's in it for me" and start thinking , "I'm glad I have family"

Answer 2

There are a few things to consider here. How did you come to make this arrangement in the first place? Did you offer? Was the cost of gas discussed then? What are her financial circumstances? What are yours?

You could tell her that you are finding the cost of gas high and ask for money. It is your right to do so, as it is also your right to stop picking up her daughter. Remember, however, that this might harm your relationship with her. What is more important to you? The cost of gas, the inconvenience, or your relationship with her? Does she really need this help?

You need to honestly consider the answers to these questions, and then you will know what to do.

Answer 3

You're not being greedy. Nobody likes the feeling of being taken for granted. Maybe they could do something in return, like some of the others here have suggested.

It sure is nice that you're able to pick up this child, though. That boy in St. Louis was kidnapped after he got off the school bus.

Answer 4

Are you doing this for the money? Or are you doing this as a favor? Maybe bring it up sometime, like say it isnt that close for us to drive all the time, or ask if she has a friend near by she could get off the bus with till the mom gets home.

Answer 5

That is not greedy at all, tell your neice that you need some gas money to help with the cost of pick up her daughter or get her to pay you in kind...get her over to do your gardening or clean your windows or something, let it slide once in a while but dont be taken advantage of.

Answer 6

First,...you are not being greedy. it is so very normal to want to be appreciated for your efforts. is there a bus stop that could be used on the days you get her off the bus that is closer to your home? would it be easyier to get her from the school directly? OR let the mom know that you can no longer afford to keep doing this if she can not compensate you BEFORE you have to go get the child. get the money first or you may not see a penny. even if this is not true you will let her THINK that you are haveing problems.

Answer 7

Just ask for gas money. Because as much as gas has gone up in America you need some help. I don't think it would be greedy at ALL!

Answer 8

No. Tell her 40 bucks a week, should cover the gas with the gas prices rising

Answer 9

I think it would be nice if she did something nice for you. Maybe take you out for dinner or buy you something for your trouble. You know an unexpected gift to say thank you. Least she can do is pay for some gas. I don't think you are being selfish. I think she is being inconsiderate. I don't think she intends to but she is. I would say something if this goes on. She is lucky to have you.

Answer 10

this is your flesh and blood... would you pull her out of a burning building and expect a medal. you should be doing it because you love your neice and her daughter. perhaps you neice is oblivious to the fact that this is bothering you, because it is. you could resolve the issue much quicker if you actually spoke to her.

there use to be a time when family members helped each other just because they were family. what is happening to our society when we start charging those that need our help.