but my husband to be thinks this not fair to him as we will only have been marreid 2 mths what should i do go with my pal or stay
2007-02-05 09:18:56 · 9 answers · asked by dd 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its only cos we geting married in the aug and we be only married by then fro 2 mths he says if it was next year he would nt mind me going
2007-02-05 09:34:22 · update #1
When my husband and I got married, 2 weeks after we got home from our honeymoon, he had to go out of town. I didn't like it, but that's life. You don't get married to stay joined at the hip for the rest of your lives. How long are you going to be in Boston? A week, I can see a problem, but a long weekend, I think he might be a little unreasonable here. You guys are going to be married for a very long time (hopefully). 1 weekend isn't going to make that much difference in the long run, when you really think about it.
2007-02-05 10:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you going to be doing with your friend, is it a museum crawl or a pub crawl? Two months can still be considered honeymoon period and I can see where he might feel neglected if you run off with a girlfriend for a vacation shortly after you return from your honeymoon. Being married means you don't go on vacations with your girlfriends, at least for the first five years. I get the feeling he isn't really worried about being fair to him since that is the man version of "Don't you love me?"
I'd postpone the friend thing if possible. The first year of marriage is tough enough without letting him think he comes second to your friend.
2007-02-05 18:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long will you be gone? Is it less than a week? If it's less than a week - I think he's being a little unfair. Probably time to have a talk with him RIGHT NOW - and get things straight before you are married. Sounds like you may be in for a marriage with a possessive, jelous kind of guy. Not good.
2007-02-05 17:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that your soon-to-be husband is being so controlling over you. So, what if you are going to be 2 months into the marriage..it's not like it is 2 days...and even if it was, you have a right to continue to lead your own life. Yes, there is compromise invloved, but I most certainly DO NOT think you should give into this. What else are youn going to be guilted into giving up??? It all starts somewhere...trust me when I say that you need to nip this one in the bud! HAVE FUN IN BOSTON!
2007-02-05 18:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you will by then be married, from that day forward your husbands boys will now refer to you as the old balll & chain, or as I like to call my boys wives the old battle axe etc... You dig, thats why its called marriage because any free time you had is know being spent with the spouse.
2007-02-05 17:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that my husband would have been encouraging me to go, and I would have encouraged him. But if this isn't how your relationship works, then be respectful of your husband's wishes, and plan your trip for some other time.
2007-02-05 17:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone can answer this but you. I would suggest sitting down and talking with him and listen to his reasons and also state yours. Hope you can come to a decsion that you are both happy with.
2007-02-05 17:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not like you've just met. i think that he's being a little selfish. would he go if it was his friend?
2007-02-05 17:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him
2007-02-05 17:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋