Theres this guy who i hooked up with 2 years ago but hes from another city. we agreed not to do long distance coz it just doesnt work. I was quite hurt coz i really liked him but eventually i decided to move on and see other guys.we still see each other at least twice a year. when we are around each other its as if we are a couple and its always really intense coz we are VERY attracted to each other. this 'plan' worked well for us but now its so complicated because I am in a relationship but cheated on the guy with him. I ts weird coz even tho i knew it was wrong it felt natural like we couldnt see each other and NOT be together. he tells me he wud cheat on his gf with me too. its like an 'agreement' that we have. this is the 2nd time iv cheated on a guy with him but we actually cant help oursleves wen we around each other! the main problem is that neither of us think this will ever change. has anyone else had a relationship like this? its bn going on for 2 yrs
2007-02-05 09:18:23 · 12 answers · asked by ckgirl_sa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I have but... the thing you should start to realize though is the long distance one isn't going anywhere and once you find someone local that means something to you this behavior will stop.
In the situation I was in, I had to make a choice, I choose the one that was local because he fulfilled my needs more, for one he was here and had time for me. It was hard to let go of the 3.5 year thing that I had going on with this other man, but it was the best thing I ever did. Also I had to stop talking to this other one for awhile. We didn't speak for nearly a year, only short quick emails back and forth. It was easier for me to adjust this way.
2007-02-05 09:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I've never had a relationship like that before but I know what you need to do. Don't see the long distance guy anymore. You shouldn't cheat on people, it's just not right. If you guys are so good together then why doesn't one of you move closer to the other?
2007-02-05 09:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by My kids mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: break up with your current relationship. If you want to be with mr. long distance, then do it. But don't put your current guy through this because you need #2. Give it a chance with mr. long distance, but know that if it doesn't work, you should break up for good. Good sex is the most important thing.
2007-02-05 09:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, it is normal to feel this way. you really cared about him and that is perfectly normal. you did what you thought was right at the time.being in a long distance relationship can be reall fustrating but If it was realy ment to be then you guys will end up together. it might not be anytime now but then again it migth. you never know but try not to think about it all that much. I really hope i hepled you :)
2007-02-05 09:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by kasydnie36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating will hurt the other people. But if I was you adn I had a connection like that I would move to that town and find a job to be with that guy. Talk to that guy and ask him if you were to move there would he be yours and only yours???
2007-02-05 09:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by xxmilitarychikxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how that would be complicated.....i would just not have a serious b/f so its not cheating and then just date around or if u dont want to do that then just say no....i dont think u should keep cheating on anyone....its just not right and u wouldnt like it if someone did it to you....if this guy that moved away doesnt understand that then maybe its not worth....i think u can make this work....u just have to be patient
2007-02-05 09:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by ..cHeRi.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually it is not normal!! sorry that is probably not what you wanted to hear but hello your cheating on your current boyfriend with an ex boyfriend because neither one of you can let go! either be with him or don't be with him but don't cheat on your now because what goes around comes around and you will always be the one who is going to end up with the sh it end of the stick :)
2007-02-05 09:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have had the exact same thing and it's not normal it's very bad the only way to fix it is to never talk to him again,over time you will forget him and feel just fine.....trust me i was in the exact same situation.
2007-02-05 09:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy_mum24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I have, and u need to pick one, cause one of the guys and u will get hurt so think about it and u should pick one of them.
2007-02-05 09:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by shorty21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋