Me and this guy met at a club on new years. He asked for my number and I gave it to him not even really caring just for the hell of it. I couldnt even remeber what he looked like. We started talking on the phone and I was like wow he is actually kind of cool. About a wk later he came over, and when I really just got to look at him I was so attracted. We went on about 5 dates within one wk everything was going great. He called me when, he got off work, when he wasnt busy he would text it was awsome. Well this past wk he has been kind of distant. He tells me his grandmother is in the hospital and dont get me wrong I completely understand. But now he hardly ever calls, when we do talk its like for about 3 minutes. he will tell me he will call me back and wont call back until the next night. But then he will send text messages saying he misses me so much and he is sorry he hadnt had time to hang out with me? Im really confused because he is giving me mixed signals.....
2007-02-05 09:15:11 · 12 answers · asked by ANTM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its just been really wierd because, His grandmother is in bryan tx about 2-3 hrs away. I talked to him sunday and he said he had just got back in town, he didnt call all day monday and then he sends a text at 10 in the morning tuesday and said he missed me alot and that he had just got back in town, i replied i thought you got back sunday and he said me and my parents went back yesterday....for some reason I just really think he's lying. Sunday when he called I didnt ask him if I could come over or anything and he was just like I have a lot of family at my house so i will try and call you back later.... but yet he was still in the car on his way home. To me if he doesnt like me it just seems pointless for him to be playing games. Then when I dont anwser he leaves long voice mails saying he is sorry he has been so busy he didnt have a chance to call me. The more and more I think about it he is really full of ****..... dont you think
2007-02-06 04:04:45 · update #1
you are getting too attached too quickly, maybe he thinks you are stalker potential.
2007-02-05 09:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you examine all of this further, please remember just one thing - the person in charge here is you. You are in charge of you. If you are getting double signals or anything you don't particularly care for, you are at liberty to step back or even end the whole thing. You are wise to take full responsibility of how much of any of this you want to have in your life. As long as you do that, then you can manage to stay on top of things. But if you opt to just be passive, and feign confusion, and kind of float along with whatever happens to you, this will drag out and you will continue to be disappointed. I would have you reclaim authority over yourself and let him know exactly what you have told us here on Yahoo! Answers. Be kind and courteous because he has some things going on as well. In time, you will know if this is someone you want to continue to have in your life. Try to get to the bottom of the double signals soon, so at least you will know exactly where you are at with him from day to day. That will actually help both of you, too, so good luck, and I hope this helps you reclaim your voice in the things that are happening to you, in your life. Best to you always, from Chris.
2007-02-05 09:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look he is having a rough time HE LOVE YOU if he didn;t he wouldn't even talk to you because he has spent the last few wks worrying about his grandmother. Normally guys would completely shield themselves from the outside world but he is talking to you so he must like you
2007-02-05 09:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by hefferonchinaman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his grandmother really is ill he can be forgiven for being preoccupied. But do you really believe she is, or is that his excuse for putting some distance between the two of you? I hate to say it, but it looks like he is losing interest. Try not to look forward to his calls so much,(I know that is easier said than done) try to fill your time with something else. Try not to text or call him and see how long it takes him to contact you. I may be wrong, but I would prepare yourself for the text that says, sorry, but I cant see you anymore.
2007-02-05 09:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Babsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that he loves his grandmother so much that he would (possibly) cry if he talks to you in person? I know when my mother died, I couldn't talk to anyone for days cause I'd burst ot crying or some stupid non-masculine thing. It took an old love of mine to bring me out of it.
Ride it out for a little while and see what happens. With luck, she'll get better.
2007-02-05 10:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you said it yourself, his grandma is in the hospital. People deal with that kind of thing in their own way. It may take some time for him to come back around. Don't be discouraged.
2007-02-05 09:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His grandma is in the hospital, give him a break. That is why he isn't around as frequently as before. He is probably more concerned about talking with his family right now.
2007-02-05 09:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back off its obvious he is worried about his grandma.
Be there for moral support once his grandma is better maybe things between you will go back to normal.Good Luck
2007-02-08 07:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, he is playing hard to get??? so maybe you should play his game, dont call, or text him, let him come to you... It might be hard but this way you wont be easy, and guys love things they cant have....
good luck
2007-02-05 09:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by Simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's known you 5 mins, he's known his gran all his life, me thinks you may be the last thing on his mind at the moment, give him his space if he likes you he'll come back when all is well again
2007-02-05 09:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by vixen599 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just stressin' out about his gma don't freak out it's normal...but no guy really likes their GF hearing them cry on the phone.
2007-02-05 09:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋