About two years ago I had met this guy and we had a connection of sorts but then we lost contact and now we're talking again and he wants to go out on a date with me. Only problem is that back then I was about 30lbs lighter. He told me that I was one of the most beautiful women he had ever met and I'm afraid I don't and won't live up to what I used to...He told me that he understands the weight gain and that he's sure I'm "hot" anyway but I dont belive he wil after he sees me again....Should I even bother going out with him or just say no and forget about the entire thing until I lose the 30lbs?
2007-02-05 09:11:06 · 15 answers · asked by The nu cancer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By all means meet with him again...but start your diet now. im sure he will love you with the weight or not..but do you feel healthy? do you love your looks? ask yourself theses questions. if you say no to both id go on a diet. dont diet just for a guy but diet for yourself and your own opinions. i think you should give the guy a chance though! he sounds sweet! hope i helped! :)
2007-02-05 09:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should try to take care of yourself and get back into excercising and eating healthy. Looks are only looks but it seems it has affected your self esteem and how you feel about yourself. The 30 lbs weight gain will also be a negative impression on the guy since looks do matter at first.
You don't have to lose the whole 30lbs...but start small and eventually you'll get to a level of fitness you are comfortable with. Don't let this guy be your motivation but do it for your own health and confidence.
2007-02-05 17:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Samuel L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...meet up with him reconnect and lose the weight while in the process of doing this...he says it doesn't matter (he really might be cool with it) but a guy wants a women on his arms and to show in public...I say diet so you don't feel insecure if there will every be a time when you want to take your clothes off...DIET but diet so that you can feel better about yourself and not have this baggage in the relationship.
2007-02-05 17:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by fatiegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you as much as he says, the weight won't matter to him. Seriously, are you willing to throw away a great guy just because you *think* that maybe he *might* not like the new you?
besides, honey, hotness is all in the attitude - if you're comfortable in your body, then he'll respond to that.
2007-02-05 17:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don''t stress. be confident in your skin. Try eating extra healthy for a few days. maybe you'll lose a few pounds 5 would be enough if it made you feel more beautiful. He should love you for your personality regardless. So go work those curves!!
:)
2007-02-05 17:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Shhhh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure go on the date! If he still thinks your hot, he stay in touch. If he does'nt than he's was only lookin at the "outside" of you, and not the person you really are. Looks ain't everything.
2007-02-05 17:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself. There's no point dating until you do...
the thing is, he might just be one of the favorable forces in your life until you get over it.
So, why don't you tell him you really want to spend time with him. Tell him you need to put the weight thign aside, you don't want to talk about it, and when you're more comfortable, you might get closer to him.
Then get used to it.
You can't spend the rest of your life thinking of yourself like this.
Good luck!
2007-02-05 17:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose weight if that will make YOU feel better and because lousing weight is good for YOUR health and not for anything else in the world YOU must be the most important person in YOUR life that's what i believe
2007-02-05 17:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't like you for who you are, than he is not a good catch. I love my husband inside and out. Looks are only superficial. No don't loose weight. Go out with him. See if he is swallow!
2007-02-05 17:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by shania3949 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, YOU are the important part of the couple. If you must go on a diet (always ask your doctor), it's because of you, not him.
2007-02-05 17:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by pestilpen3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋