I come from a military background. I am used to figures of my family being overseas and elsewhere. I love families that are apart and still have the desire to want to be together. Military life can be very rewarding. Jim is going to be a Navy Seal. He tells me that he thinks that I deserve a man that is going to be around for things. BUT, the way I see it is this... I love him, and I want to do this, no matter what the circumstance. I am one of those women that can handle this kind of pressure and it excites me. I am very proud of him and want him to succeed. But, I also need to know what I need to do to assure him down the road that I will not cheat and that I will forever be supportive of his decisions? Do I insist? Do I lay off for a while and keep in touch and then gradually show MORE interest. He already knows how I feel and he said that he's willing to go against the odds for me... but he thinks that I will not like it. What do I do? I am going to do this, how do i?
2007-02-05 09:03:15 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We aren't together. We're both single. He doesn't want to hurt me bc he thinks he will die or he thinks that I deserve someone that will be around. BUT I want to be that girl. He pays attention to me more than others. I know he cares deeply. He looked dreadfully sad when we woke up the last day I saw him. It hasn't been long enough to pass the I Love You's yet. But, it something that I know I will eventually want to do. I've learned that true love comes with time. I just know that he's the one too.
2007-02-05 09:13:52 · update #1
I told him that I would rather risk my heart for him than sit back and watch him do this alone. He needs the love and support of a woman - his mother is not happy with him - his friends don't realize the severity of this training and gruelsome process... I come from the military life - I know this is difficult. I know if I send him letters everyday and show him I care he will come around... any other comments?
2007-02-05 09:15:52 · update #2
My hats off to u 4 showing this determinaton in such a difficult situtaion. I think what u have to make him realize is that regardless if anything were to happen to him,both of u being together or not,it would still hurt u because of the love that u feel for him.U need to tell him to get that attitude of him dying out of his head!!! If he loves u as well tell him to fight for the love he feels,to fight for u and him to be together against all odds, and for U, its nice that u take in our opinions but have u evr asked God for His say in this,afterall He is the creator of everything,He knows all!!!! U need to ask God with ALL UR HEART to help u with this situation.All I can do is give u advice,God can take ur whole situation in His hands if u just allow Him.
God Bless and keep on keeping on!
2007-02-05 09:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are saying......I have also been in the military life for most of my life. I think that you should definetly go for it! Usually it turns out for the best. He needs your support, he just doesn't know it. A lot of times military wives cheat while their husbands are away and that is a fear for all military personnel. What you need to do is prove to him that you are not that way and all you want to do is love and support him. It is tricky to do that, but my suggestion is to back off just a little bit right now and let everything really soak in with him. Not too long though because you don't want him to think you don't care. Oooooo....good idea, come up with something REALLY special to let him know that you will always be here for him for Valentines Day. Make your own card or make him dinner and get him a special gift that he will be able to take with him wherever the military might take him. Make sure it is compact and easy to carry around though. Maybe a bracelet out of twine (so it won't break and say this is how strong your love is for him). Anyways, you get the point. Do that and reassure him how much you love him. I promise he will come around! Good luck!
2007-02-05 09:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you'd rather love him and go through the pain of losing him, than not have him in your life at all. Tell him you're well aware that, even if he lives, the road ahead will be difficult and there will be times it's overwhelming... but that he is worth it.
Being a Navy Seal, he's had to go through the most intensive training, a grueling process that made him question his commitment over and over... so he wants to make sure that you've given the relationship the same amount of serious thought and dedication, because you'll both need it to survive the storms ahead. Tell him you know the risks and are prepared for whatever may come... and good luck.
2007-02-05 09:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating this guy? Has he said he loves you too? I would simply take heed to what he is saying he could be saying it for a lot of different reasons. Slow it down if it's meant to be it will be. Be his friend show him you can be his friend. Support him and be there for him as a friend. When the time is right he will tell YOU he wants to be with you and how he can't be without you. It's no fun loving somebody who doesn't love you back
2007-02-05 09:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Diva Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. yall are really in love. this makes me happy. haha. well i guess just because today its not for love much anymore but its nice to hear yall are really in love with eachother.
on the subject now....i think you should sit him down...and just spill your guts to him. make sure hes in a serious mood or else he might not be serious or fully understand what your trying to tell him. tell him that you wont cheat because hes the love of your life. and show more interest so he knows how you feel.
i hope everything works out! :)
2007-02-05 09:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said. he sounds like a great guy. Hang on to him. No need to insist, Or enforce. Just let him know you're not going away :)
2007-02-05 09:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by Shhhh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him do he love you and if he say yes then tell to stop thinking he will die. If he say no, well just move on.
2007-02-05 09:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a navy seal in bush's illegal wars...he doesn't deserve to be loved. He should be arrested for war crimes.
2007-02-05 09:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you love him and will always be with him. dont take no for an answer
2007-02-05 09:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by iggins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't love him. He is going to die on you.
2007-02-05 09:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋