1 Corinthians 1:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer.
What do you do if there is a fight and your mad and one wants to make up and the other don't? when is it right to use sex as a reward or punishment?
2007-02-05 09:02:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
lol ur funny. stop wasting ur time and go do it.
2007-02-05 09:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Fil D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never use anything as a reward or punishment in marriage. What gives you the right? How about treating your spouse with dignity and respect? Unless you want your spouse to resent you and treat you like crap too. Not wanting to have sex when you are mad isn't a punishment. I wouldn't want to get intimate with someone that I feel resentful toward, but you better work it out soon because it's not fair to hold a grudge.
2007-02-05 09:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's ok to deprive your spouse of sex by an means... but if you have just had a fight, and one of you wants "makeup sex" but the other doesn't.... I dont see that as depriving your spouse of sex at all! It's different with girls and guys though... whenever my husband and I get in fights, for some reason he always gets turned on and wants to have "makeup sex" ... but I can barely look at him because I'm so pissed off/ disgusted... so it usually takes me some time to actually warm back up to him. So don't always take it like they are punishing you... They just have a hard time getting in the mood after that!
2007-02-05 09:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by raven975 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's always a very delicate subject; using sex as reward or punishment.
* First, never use the bible to justify anything, that's just extra muck that has nothing to do with the situation.
* Secondly, if you can't work something out in an adult manner then agree to take a little time apart from each other (like going to opposite ends of the house) until you can both cool down. Then try to talk it over much later once the subject isn't so heated.
2007-02-05 09:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tomis 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No it is not the way to go although it may seem like the best thing to do. In all actuality it can be a act that will take all the pressure of the ralationship away. Sex is a known stress reliever. Sex to a male is very important as well this is one way he is able to show is manliness and also relieve himself of all stress without talking about them.
If you would consider yourself a Christian I would say don't hold back. Take the time to enjoy it and not concentrate on the on the problem.
Proverbs 5:19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
2007-02-05 12:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion that's like cutting off your nose to spite your face.
It really serves no real purpose other than causing your self and your partner emotional pain. Sex is neither a reward or punishment it is an act shared by two people whom love each other.
2007-02-05 12:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok people say you aren't supposed to "use it as a weapon" ...but on the other side of that...if I'm pissed at my husband because he's being an idiot..
#1 I want to slap him not sleep with him and
#2 Why should I reinforce stupid behavior?
If some one is mad at you why would they give you anything?
If you're pissed at your wife do you buy her diamonds? No
Well you shouldn't use them as a weapon ...you should buy them for her all the time, when ever she wants them!
This is an idiotic question and an even stupider argument....NO SEX FOR YOU! lol
2007-02-05 09:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't a reward or a punishment. If this is how you treat your spouse then you really need counselling. If it is your spouse then they need it. Regardless you should both seek help. You refer to scripture so I would suggest spaeking with your pastor or minister. Sex is part of a healthy relationship. If it isn't then the relationship is suffering from something.
2007-02-05 09:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Daystar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Without sex, you are just roommates and friends. My Wife is my Best Friend and Lover and it's the Lover part that makes our relationship closer than just Friends. When you start using sex as a reward or withold it as a punishment, then it's time to reevaluate your relationship.
2007-02-05 09:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Cajun 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it's not OK. Trying to manipulate, coerce, or punish your partner by any means is a serious broach of trust. Not to mention, it is a hugely immature thing to do.
If you feel that there is not enough respect in your relationship, that you have to withhold or trade for sex in order to get your needs met, perhaps you ought to rethink your situation. Believe me, no matter what you feel, it will never be worth the loss of trust, and self dignity. You deserve better, and so does your partner.
P.s.
Thanks, Mad_Oak, I LoL'ed........
2007-02-05 09:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A childish tactic most often used by women. That's why we fellas have two hands though. My ex-wife would use the "no sex for two weeks" threat. I'd say, "how about we just make it a month?" Thank goodness I married a grown up woman.
2007-02-05 10:09:09 · answer #11 · answered by playdeaux 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋