Comments about depression or disorders? My ex and i had a great relationship when we were together minus his?

Question

depression.I was there for him for much of it. He never was treated professionally.We are 29 yrsold and he had gotten a one night stand pregnant before we met.When I helped him come to terms with it, he left me to be with the mother of his child. She played her part well,she manipualted him into thinking he should have been there,& what he missed out on.He turned so coldly to me,& said hurtful things, I couldnt believe.Like that we were never really together & did I think it was really going to work between us!! WE had nothing but love for each other.I couldnt beleive he was saying this to me for complete trash. Now, he found out she lied to him about her childhood saying she was raped, molested. & he ended the relationship with her. But now he cant and wont even talk to me now. First I want to know how could he turn on me like that? Is it part of depression? at least he could have been respectful, I was shocked.Also,do you think he is ashamed, emabarrased? I want to understand.

Answer 1

Don't waste one more moment grieving over this affair. consider yourself lucky!! God has saved you from what could have been a fate worse than death!!! This man will ALWAYS have problems, release him; as he has released you. If you would take him back, it was end even worse next time. Consider yourself blessed to have escaped with no more harm than was done and lucky your didn't have a child!!! Thank your lucky stars! There are a zillion fish in the sea which are all, whether you believe me or not, are better than him and in time you will come to understand this too. This situation had nothing to do with the other girl, but everything to do with this guy. Leopards don't change their spots and he'll continue to be out there on the prowl for some other victim. Wise up you'll thank me later.

Answer 2

I know how you feel, I once had a relationship with someone severely depressed, too, and I recognize the sense of utter confusion on your side. FOr me it was different since we broke up before really bad stuff happened, like it did in your case.

I've researched this after that break-up, and all I can tell you is: get away as soon as possible! Partners of people who are severely depressed are a lot more likely to become depressed as well. But they have a more difficult position then: when they become depressed, their partner cannot support them, since their partner already has a dependency relation on the other partner. So, if you become depressed whilst being in a relatiinship with someone who is depressed, you'll suffer doubly: and you;re depressed, and you have no one to turn to.

One of the key characteristics of depressed people is that they don't see the effect their behavior and actions have on their families and loved ones. They just hate, fear or loathe the world and are apt to interpret everything negatively or wrongly - and it's hard to hold this against them, because it's the disease doing it, not them.Please bear in mind that that behavior is a very serious disease, which is difficult to cure. It takes professional aid to help someone who is depressed - you're not able to do it. The best thing you can do is to try and get your friend to see a psychiatrist, and until, if ever, he is healed from his illness, not see him relationship-wise.

Answer 3

Well, if there's one thing I can tell you, he is not depressed...or at least, he has not been since you last saw him. And he doesn't have any mental disorder if this story is the basis.

Why he acts that way is that, for one, he is hurt by his previous "engagement", and that he is in fact in pain; he also would like to regain control of his "manhood" since he was previously lied to by his previous partner, and somehow turns on you to regain that once-lost control by being mad, cold, etc. Perhaps what he needs is a little space and time to think about things. He wants to be comforted since being hurt is not such a pleasant experience.

All that you can do for him now is be there when the time comes that he needs somebody to be there; comfort him in his distress and time of need; and remind him that the past is but part of how one lives each day of our lives.

Answer 4

Hold on here. YOU are the one who needs to let him go. He's sick. And sick people stick with sick people. Move on and good riddance to him. He obviously didn't have love for you or he wouldn't have turned on you.

You shouldn't know all this crap that is going on in his life. Leave him alone. If you can't let him go, then you need counseling/therapy.

Answer 5

I don't think it has anything to do with his "depression." He is just a selfish jerk who used you when he needed you. Let him go and find someone who will really love you.