I met this girl about a 2 month ago,in the begining she was texting,me like 20 times a day,and phoning me all the time,then after a while of going out together and having a great time,she stopped texting me and seemed cold.Now im crazy about this girl,so i kept contact with her,then out of the blue she says shes coming to stay with me for a few days..the days leading up to her coming,she was again texting/calling me saying she missed me,and i was on her mind..So she stays with me we have a great time..she goes back home,,and now same again,shes being cold with me and confusing the hell outta me.not calling or texting..only thing i can think is she was in a serious relationship before,and aparently got screwed up by the break up..I dont want to be the one whos always contacting her first..im so confused and hurt..so guys whats up with her hot/cold attitude..im going crazy here..what should i do?
2007-02-05 08:56:41 · 12 answers · asked by patkick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally would not be up for even one "go-round" of that treatment. You are completely in charge here. When you get enough of this you will step away from the relationship. My sense is that you have not had enough yet, so you will ultimately pursue, be disappointed, have some more fun, wonder what is going on, pursue, be disappointed - if I were not careful I could confuse this pattern with co-dependency, which is chocolates and flowers one minute, then anger and an argument, harsh words, he leaves in a huff, everything in suspended animation for about a week, silence, then the make-up with chocolates and flowers again and then a few good times then tension and an argument and some harsh words and he leaves and then silence and then chocolates and flowers and honey I don't know what I was thinking I'll never do it again and she reluctantly takes him back again and the cycle repeats itself until one of them gets sick of it and leaves if he is lucky. The bottom line here is you. You are in charge of what's what with you and with her. When you detect a pattern (which is probably already there, by the way) you are perfectly within your rights as a gentleman and kind soul to politely step back without hurting anyone and just leave all of this behind you forever. But until you see that this whole thing is repeating itself over and over again, I doubt that you will step back. Just stay tuned and see if you can spot a pattern in it all and you should be just fine if you step back when you find the pattern. I strongly encourage you to take charge of the situation because what you are really doing is taking charge of yourself again.
2007-02-05 09:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman and I don't know if this applies to all woman but I get bored around that time 3 mos. It's nothing bad... it's just everything is good in the beginning then you get to know more of a person and sometimes don't really like what you see or what you thought you saw in the beginning isn't what it really is! Point blank you haven't even known her that long to be all wrapped up in her like that. Take you time let it flow and if it doesn't work let it go and don't be crying and ****....women hate that....
2007-02-05 09:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Diva Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what shes doing is not normal. I'm sorry to say but I dont think she has a clue what she wants. The best thing you can do is move on and fair enough be friends with her, but to be honest hun, it sounds like she cant make up her mind and the longer you stay in this relationship the more it'll hurt when she dumps you for definate, sad but true, you seem like a nice guy, I'm sure theres plenty of nice girls out there. Sadly she doesnt seem like one of them.
Sorry
2007-02-05 09:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by N00b londoner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. She needs the attention and to feel wanted, and is probably getting it from more that one person. Walk away - you'll only get screwed up by her and if you're really unlucky catch something unpleasant from whoever else she's been with.
Sounds harsh I know, but it sounds very much to me like you are being used. Retain your self respect and move on before you get hurt.
2007-02-05 09:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by Buckaroo Banzai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're reading too much into it. Its a long distance relationship right? That really tough on a relationship.
She was probably excited knowing she would be seeing you so she texted you more.
Your best bet is to ask her where you stand.
2007-02-05 09:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Girugamesh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is playing. She most likely has a few guys on the go. Trust me.
2007-02-05 09:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enter the next available Marathon and just keep running. Believe me she is not worth it.
2007-02-05 09:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by biffo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has issues. Do you want to spend your time and energy trying to get her to confront her issues or just find someone who isn't crazy.
From my experience, it isn't worth it. Just let her know you'll always be her friend, but needless drama ain't worth your time. Find yourself a well adjusted girl.
2007-02-05 09:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, girls may do that to feel special...for instance...she may have another relationship but that relationship is missing something...and u have that "something" when she is wit u...but then there is another guy who she loves somethin bout him...so it is prbly confusin her & she prbly aint sure with wut she wants...u need 2 tell her how u feel!! EVERYTHING!!! If it dont get better, I wuld move on!
2007-02-05 09:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by KVG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds manic depressive. Tell her (nicely, politely, not accusingly) that you're confused by her actions, and ask her to explain.
2007-02-05 09:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋