My house up for sale. A "friend" was present when a real estate agent and clients came. I was on the phone. When the call was over, I went to the basement to meet the buyers, while my "friend" remained on the main floor. My "friend" had been shopping and had brought 3 huge bags of clothes into the house ( I wondered at the time why she did not leave them in the car). I had a box of knickknacks at the bottom of the stairs. After the visit, I saw that this box was empty and asked "friend" why? She said that she had put all the items out on the hall table to impress the buyers. ?? I got annoyed and said she had no right to "decorate" my house while I was on the phone and drove my "friend" home. The next day, I felt drawn to the hall table and my china cabinet - a brass bowl and a pair of candlestick holders were gone. I searched my house and remember how the "friend" had admired the items. I confronted her and she denies stealing them. She would not look at me.
What to do?
2007-02-05 08:54:52 · 12 answers · asked by customtecfire 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Both items were on the main floor and had been commented on by "friend". She liked to pick up an item and ask rude questions ie. value, history, if they were for sale. She had a thing for brass and liked my candlestick holders in the china cabinet and the brass bowl on the hall table. Both items that she had fawned over are gone. The real estate agent and clients were not alone on the main floor ever but "friend" was. I am still trying to figure out what is missing from the box of knickkacks that she displayed on the hall table - without my permission. Now she doesn't remember me having brass candlestick holders or a brass bowl even though she handled these very items. I know she is lying and these items were from dead loved ones and are irreplacable. I am sick over it and cannot believe someone could be so evil. If I get the police involved it will be her word against mine.
2007-02-05 09:16:45 · update #1
The bags of clothes could easily hide a pair of candlestick holders and a brass bowl and other things. There had been a Fill-a-bag for $12 sale at the local thrift shop and she had 3 of them. There was no reason for her to bring them into the house because we had both been at the sale and came back to the house - in my car-for the real estate appointment. We ended up in my car driving her home plus those 3 bags. I have read Les Miz and consider it one of my fav stories. So, I should tell her to take the candlesticks and use them for a new life? She wasn't exactly starving, homeless and running from the law and I am not a member of the clergy. I did tell her that I knew she was guilty and that it was between her and God now. People I loved cherished these items and when I touch those items I am connecting with my dead husband and my dead brother.
2007-02-05 09:40:55 · update #2
File a police report. Theft, no matter if it's a friend or family member or roommate who's the main suspect, is NOT ACCEPTABLE, EVER. From anyone.
2007-02-08 00:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT a friend. And she brought clothes into the house? Weird, unless she intended to decorate with your permission then I understand. But apparentl this didn't happen.
Stay away from her sounds like a thief and a cheat. Won't last long making a living like that though.
I can tell you one thing for sure if someone deceased leaves you something and someone steals it, believe me that person will have a torubled conscience who stole.
About the police, I'm not sure about this it's hard call.
Take pictures of your valuable items, jewelry dishes.
2007-02-05 09:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is make a police report. If your friend still lets you into her house, you can always look around for the items when she is not in the room. If you find them, you can either take them back or you can call the police and have them come over. But you have to make a report first. The police will NOT laugh at you.
2007-02-05 11:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are certain that this person stole your items, then get the police involved, if you really want to make that big of a deal about it.
If you are not certain, do not ruin a friendship over it!
And, sorry, but I missed the importance of the bags of clothes that this person brought into your house.
It might not hurt for you to study the story of Les Miserables.
2007-02-05 09:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want them back, go to her house/apt. When she lets you in, see if they're displayed anywhere.
Either way, I would never associate with her again...period.
Also, you'll have a hard time getting her to own up to it, so that, you just have to let go....it's a matter of hpw bad you want them back.
Also agreed, police will laugh at you- too busy with serious crimes.
Good luck. Make some new friends.
2007-02-05 11:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With age I have learned to get rid of the "garbage friends". If you really think she stole those items, do not be friends with her any-more. I would rather have no friends than leaches and users. But you have to know for sure she took them. If you really think she did, rid yourself of her. I have gotten rid of 4 user girlfriends in my life. These women didn't deserve to be my friends. I gave them so much more than they ever gave me. A true friend is hard to find.
2007-02-05 12:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dollydoright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would scratch her my "friends" list. You can make a police report and suggest her as the culprit but I doubt you will ever see those items again.
2007-02-05 09:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by PRS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We got a little basket & put all the dog's toys in it. If she got anything she shouldn't have, she was scolded. Now she's 4 & will go get things from HER basket & leave everythign else alone. It may be harder since she is grown Be Persistent & patient !!!
2016-05-24 19:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be her friend anymore. Is there a chance teh real estate agent or client might have taken them?
2007-02-05 08:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by La Chica Sexy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have an answer for you other than to tell you that I sure am sorry for your loss of a so called friend and your items.
2007-02-05 09:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋