Should we call it quits?

Question

My girlfriend and I love each other, but I'm likely moving away in 3 months to go back to school, and she can't come with me because of her job.

I never really sowed my wild oats (I'm 26) and neither did she, and neither of us is a fan of long distance relationships. Should this be one of those "If you love someone, set them free" situations, or should we be faithful for 3 years and see each other once every six months?

Answer 1

call it quits while you are gone, and if it was meant to be you guys will get back together when the time is right. if you both realize what the situation is and are ok with breaking it off for a bit than i don't see why you guys can't leave on good terms and get back together if that is what you want when finished school.

Answer 2

Generally I think if you have to ask the internet for relationship advice then the answer is: it's over.

Long distance relationships don't work. You can't be physically intimate, you can't be as involved in the other persons life, it's easy to get paranoid and think the other person is cheating on you. The list goes on.

I say; break it off for a few months without much communication (it's easy to get clingy if you talk on the phone all the time) and see if you can handle it. And if you can't, then figure out how you can live closer together or just move on.

Answer 3

I'd just set it free. I mean if it's really meant to be you will get back together, but 3 years is a long time to be away from each other. In ways this can test your love for each other. Your both young though and its best to let each other know they're free to date or whatever without feeling guilty about it. ;o)

Answer 4

Hmm...that really depends.
Keep the relationship going if both can agree to see each other twice a year. Discuss that with her and see what she thinks.
If you guys really love each other and you would like to spend the rest of your life with her then stay together.

If you guys are not that serious and stuff, then break up and go your separate ways.

Either way though, whatever is meant to be will happen. 'Hope this all makes sense. Follow what you feel inside, man. It will tell you what you need to do.

All the best!!

Answer 5

don't think u should be exclusive, as long distance relationships hardly ever work. u both should date others and if in 3 years neither has married or if neither is involved than u can always go back together. just never works out, because u both will be meeting different people, it is just alot to ask of either of u to remain faithful.

Answer 6

I suggest going your seperate ways and soil those oats, but make a pact that neither of you will become into a commited relationship unless it is just the perfect person, then when you are able to be together again your oats will be sowed.

Answer 7

I would not say goodbye for good but discuss seeing other people for the time being and stay in touch. It could be the saying if you love them set them free....but the rest of the saying is "if they come back it was ment to be...and if they dont, it wasnt ment to be." people can change in three years, especially apart. Maybe breaking up for the time being would be better. But tell her that you love her and would like to try to be back with her in 3 years. But definatly explain why you are breaking up with her and tell her this saying and she might understand. I would

Answer 8

I would split man. I moved across Texas for a girl and she ended up cheating on me. You need to live your life while your there...its too hard to love that far away. The only way i would stay with this girl would be to marry her, but if that isnt in the cards...then leave and dont change your life for other people..yet.

Answer 9

Ask her if she wants a long distance relationship and then you two need to talk it out

Answer 10

If your crazy about eachother distance shouldn't tear you apart even though it's hard. If all you can think of are your sexaul urges and having them fufilled then there isn't a relationship.