I have tried everything and she will scream her head off and then my husband will give in to her and put her in the bed with us. We need some alone time!!!!
2007-02-05 08:31:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Our doctor told us this and he was RIGHT ON THE MONEY!!!!!
Put her in her bed. She WILL cry (that won't hurt her). The first night she may cry 30 minutes or she nay cry an hour (It was two with our second daughter).
This is the neat part. The next night she will cry HALF as long as the first. (it was true. our first daughter cried and hour the first night and 30 minutes the next.)
The third night HALF as long as she cried the second night, Yep 15 minutes)
The fourth night again HALF the third and so on and so on. However on the fourth night she cried about eight minutes and stopped. We were wondering if she had gone to sleep and peeked in. She was playing with some toys in her bed and humming to herself. Never cried again unless she was sick.
Good Luck!
2007-02-05 08:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Daystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, mine is 13 months old and we made the mistake of putting her in our bed when she was born and she was moved to her own room and her own bed at 11 months and yes it took a week and she is still not good all the time but she sleeps almost every night from 8:30 to 7 or 8. I will tell you you have to be tough and put her in there and leave her. Put a monitor in her room and DO NOT GO IN THERE!! Everyone said that you go in there 10-15 min. to let them know you are still there and that is bull **** because they see you and it is on again. Just let her cry and trust me it is not as hard as you think it will be if I would have known that I would have done it MUCH SOONER!! She will cry 30 min then it will get better as nights go on. Just to let you know it will take any were from 3 days to maybe 1 1/2 weeks to make then sleep all the way through the night.
Good Luck
2007-02-05 16:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go into her room with her for about a week or so and sleep with her in there then slowly just after she falls asleep just go to your room. That way in the morning she relizes that you are not there and everything is still okay. But you might want to start up on this soon my cousin has a 6 and a 9 year old and they both refuse to sleep in their own bed.
2007-02-05 16:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The earlier you nip this in the bud, the easier it will be. This is why I don't recommend co-sleeping, because all it creates is trouble.
Get a good routine going that works for her. Bath, pajamas, read a book, hugs & kisses, and then lay down. Tell her she will be sleeping in her big girl bed from now on. Lay her down, and sit next to her bed until she falls asleep. Each night, sit farther and farther away. Eventually, she won't even care if you're there or not and you won't have to sit there until she falls asleep.
Be persistent though. Don't give in! Good luck :-)
2007-02-05 16:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason she is doing this is because your husband is giving in to her. She has it in her head that eventually someone will give in to her if she screams long enough. You have to stand your ground and make her stay in her room overnight. It may take a few nights of screaming, but she will start to understand that no one is going to give in to her and her screaming isnt going to help the situation. Hope this helps
2007-02-05 16:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 2 1/2yrs old and I just moved him in his own room. He has his own full size bed so I just told him we were gonna sleep in his room from now on. For about the first week I slept in bed with him in his room. After he was used to sleeping in his room I would just sneak out after he fell asleep.
2007-02-05 16:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by jaysgurl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to reteach her how to sleep alone. She screams until dad puts her in bed because that is what she's learned and taught dad to do. He's taught her to be persistent. Bug him until I get what I want. It will be a few sleepless nights but just put her back in her bed. Don't talk to her or look at her just put her in bed and walk out. She'll figure it out but it may take some time. Biggest ting once you've started don't give in or your back to square one.
2007-02-05 16:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by pnutallergymom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that big girls are brave enough to sleep in their rooms alone. And explain that thats her special place and that your room is your special place so she feel more comfortable.Then tell her after you read her a story she is going to show you that shes a big girl and sleep in her room all by herself. Then read her a story and turn on a night light. Don't shut the door because that might scare her. then say good night.
hopefully that works :)
2007-02-05 16:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
;-) Watch the Supernanny. She deals with it all the time! In her show she has mom put baby in bed then sit next to the bed while not making eye contact, talking, touching, etc. If she tries to get out put her back in bed without saying anything or making eye contact. Resume your position next to the bed. Do NOT give in and let her out of the bed or the next time you try, it will go on for even longer. Gradually move your position closer to the door, the outside the door etc. For 7 consecutive nights. Works on TV. = )
2007-02-05 17:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by kbsss26 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter just turned 3 and still sleeps with me. I refuse to let her scream and get upset. When I was married, my husband I would simply lie down with her and get her to sleep, then sneak off to the couch and take a blanket for "alone" time....then crawl back into bed with her when we were ready to go to sleep....
2007-02-05 16:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋