my boyfriend has 2 kids a 5 yr old and a 3 yr old. when the 5 yr old doesn't listen or is doing something in which he is hurting someone he gets in trouble and i take something away from him. as soon as i turn my back his dad gives it back. i only do this when he is doing things he should not be doing. he hits the other kids he hits me and his dad. last night he gave me a bloody nose. im also 3 months pregnant. i watch the kids most of the time that they are over here. what should i do. i have about had it.
2007-02-05 08:18:39 · 21 answers · asked by tattoogirlaz1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You've just made a child with a person who has no clue about being a father. I strongly suggest you get help as a family ASAP.
2007-02-05 20:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting HAS to be a united front! You have to talk to your boyfriend and get the rules of engagement worked out between the two of you right now.....today!
This little guy has learned how to manipulate his Dad and probably does the same with his Mom. Take a stand, not only for the family's welfare but for the welfare of the 5 yr old!
God Bless!
2007-02-05 08:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Buff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the MR.that if you too cant come to a conclusion in this matter that you are steppin' & will seek child support.Tell him that you are pregnant & shouldnt have to go thru being hit.Maybe have a group meeting including all.He must tell the children that hitting is NOT acceptable & there will be concequences for that kind of behavior. All of you are going thru a change right now that needs to get smooth.Tell the MR to get controll of his children & that you will help IF,,it is done correctly.
2007-02-05 08:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad needs to learn that he is not suppose to be his kids best friend, he's suppose to be the father figure,children raised this way do not respect their parents or any other authoritive figures. he is teaching the child terrible behavior letting him hit him and YOU. Seems to me that he's trying to make up for not being there with the child. You can not allow this behavior, and have to put your foot down with the father. Does he hit you? Please tell me no. Explain to him that he is not allowed to hit you, so why would you allow a five year old to do it. Also, my concern is if he doesn't straighten this child out prior to you given birth, whats to keep this child from injuring your new born baby. Please sit down with your boy friend and explain to him that this behavior will no longer be acceptable. If it continues, you will have no option but to leave. Good Luck
2007-02-05 08:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell would you go out with someone that has kids. They're not your kids, and you shouldn't have to deal with them. Also, if he is such a lousy, irresponsible father, why would you have a kid with him? This is all your fault.
What you should do is dump him, have an abortion immediately, get some birth control, and stop dating single parents.
You must really hate yourself. Only someone who hates themself and doesn't think that their life is going to amount to anything would put themselves in a situation like this.
I weep for the future.
2007-02-06 08:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to parent together, be on the same team. Parents have to be consistent with their rules and with each other or the kids will play you off of each other (believe it or not, they know how very young) And that causes strain on your relationship too. You don't need that, you are pregnant. You deserve to be happy and safe. If he doesn't come around, call the Super Nanny!
2007-02-05 08:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look enough is enough! You did not say anything about his Mom but if she is in the picture I would have a talk with her but if she is not you need to have a heart to heart with his dad and let him know the child is out of control and shows no respect for you and you will not watch him again!
2007-02-05 08:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by diamonds4angels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to stand up to both your boyfriend and the kid. The child should get a time out when he hits, and your boyfriend needs to support this. Let that kid get away with little things, and he'll bet getting away with bigger things when he's a teenager. Have your boyfriend take a parenting class.
2007-02-05 08:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell your boyfriend to get his kids in check! There not treating you like they should, and chances are its' because you boyfriend goes against your authority, and that's something that you need to change, or these kids will always act up when around you. Good luck
2007-02-05 08:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to feel how you feel they're not your children but by doing that you benefit by learning to deal with what your child possibly could be
2016-03-29 06:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋