Im 14 years old, and my parents wont let me date till im 16... this frustrates me because im going to be almost a senior in highschool by then, and I keep having to turn down guys that I really like.... I have proven myself responsible when dealing with guys in many situations (being asked out by jerks, invites to do stuff with guys) and Im almost an A student.... I cant see why theyre not willing to let me date... is there anything I can do to change their minds?... I'd hate to have to go around behind their backs... but Im not sure I can wait that long...
2007-02-05 08:12:42 · 22 answers · asked by Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My parents have the same rule and the funny thing when I was 14 a lot of guys liked me and now that I'm 16 it's like WHERE DID THEY GO...I guess cuz I rejected a lot of them because I couldn't date...but that's what random flings and going to your "friends" houses are for...good luck :-)
f it really bothers you that much, talk to your parents about it and maybe you can compromise
2007-02-05 08:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well You dont have to lable it as DATING. Me and my boyfriend usually try not to even state that we are "together". You can get around this situation. Your parents only have to know that hes a good friend of yours.
My boyfriend is 16 and hes not allowed to date until hes married. But we get around. lol. So just find a way that works for you and go with it. You shouldn't be treated so like a little kid.
Or you should go talk to your mom about responsibility and how you want to show them youre responsible. Then you can slowly get into the subject of dating. So just pick a way that works for you.
2007-02-05 08:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by grumpybear0718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you'll hear this a million times but these are your parents rules.
If you decide to go behind their backs and undo all of the hard work you've claimed to have done then they will not trust you. You can explain your feelings to your parents, propose a solution you can live with and see how they feel about it. You are only 14. Guys aren't going anywhere.
2007-02-05 08:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Yogini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can its not that hard most off these young guysare only in for one thing my mom wouldnt let me date when i was 14 either im 16 and yah i went behind her back to date than i gave in and had ya kno with a boy and i wish i could go back and not date at all u should be glad all they do is mess with are heads and hurt us and than we think too much about them like in skool and that makes us drop in skool wich is more important just wait it will be a good thing for u and one more thing i lost my virginity when i was 15 its better to wait till u been with somone for more than a year and make sure hes the one who wont leave u cuz u wont have sex with him and who treats u good even around his freinds hope you take my advise trust me guys are assholes and ur still young
2007-02-05 08:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by lilb491 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in such a hurry! Relax. I know it seems like 2 years is *forever*. You feel mature because you are more mature than you used to be, and kudos for that, but you still have more learn. Meanwhile, you can associate with the guys you like at activities and dances.
Ask your parents about their reasons so you understand them. Your parents care aboout you and likely know something you don't.
2007-02-05 08:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Robin the Brave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although i do think your parents are being unfair, these days you are better off concentrating on your exams. two years isn't long to wait when you are studying, i do understand and any boy who is genuinely interested, would understand, and if he is really interested he would be your friend until you are allowed to date, its a tough question, if you are really stuck on going out dating, then try finding a lad your parents know and trust, see if they would let you go on a date with him, if they let you go, then its a start, and see how it progresses. good luck anyway, hope you get what you want,
2007-02-05 08:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by JENeylon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as it is to hear, they are doing this for your own good. And WHY? Because i have been there.....guys that age, even though you may think different, only want 1 thing, and you know what that is. And if they DON'T get 'it' they'll ditch you lol, and if they DO get it, they'll ditch you for being easy LOL. Ask if you can go on group dates to movies or things similar to that. There is no harm in that. Don't go behind their back. You may know, and they may know that you are VERY trustworthy.....they are just worried about you getting hurt, and they know that guys this age only think about one thing. Just be careful and be patient.
2007-02-05 08:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by sleep_chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't allowed to date til I was 16 either, but I still had a boyfriend, it was like as long as I wasn't doing anyhting wrong I didn't think it was that big of a deal. If i din;t tell my parents.
2007-02-05 08:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Leese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie listen to your parents and I guarantee you will appreciate it later on. There is nothing out there but trouble. Yeah, you want to date guys you like but are they nice guys. You don't know nothing about them and what they are capable of doing. I know your parents sound unfair but believe me, it will all pay off in the end. Have patience, okay=)
2007-02-05 08:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chrissy, they are just trying to protect you...and also save themselves a bunch of worrying.
You do sound very mature by what you've written...I suggest telling your parents the same thing.
Give them examples of your responsibility and ask them to reconsider.
2007-02-05 08:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Miz D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋