ive been out with a girl for around a year now.. feel like shes not keen any more and that im just a mate or even a habit! what can i do or what sort of stuff can i say which could keep her mine? i know this sounds selfish and if to be honest you cannot change people for who they are. if shes getting bored,m fair enuf. ive asked her repeatedly if she is and denies it everytime. could she just be one of these gals that stik with what they can? some advice please???
thabks all of ya out there,
peace out x
2007-02-05 08:07:10 · 12 answers · asked by mysterious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im in the same situation mate...exaxtly the same... just dont call or contact her for a couple of days and if she dont respond u know that she dont wanna know... i know its hard to do but u gotta find out otherwise u will be on edge and miserable...good luck ..
2007-02-05 08:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by teejaysherbert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you do sound pretty selfish but I'm sure she's probably not telling you because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If she's normally a straight forward kind of person, then she won't be anything else on this occasion. If she tells you that she doesn't think you're boring and you don't take her word for it then you're the one with the problem not her. Don't try to change her, people won't change unless they want to, unless they decide that they have a good reason to. Ask her again and tell her that you won't take it personally if she says yes, if she says no what does she say after it? If she says no and nothing else. She's lying. If she says yes, then see what you can do to spice up your relationship a little. My boyfriend thought that I was getting bored of him, when he asked me I was hurt and appalled I didn't think anything of the sort, I had so many other things on my mind that whenever we were on the phone there were these long pauses because I'd be thinking about something totally different. I got everything of my chests and we worked it out. Maybe you can your girlfriend can do the same, unless she doesn't want to work it out. In which case find someone else who deserves your love. Good luck hon!
2007-02-05 16:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The passion always dies, she's probably just happy and content with you. Perhaps you need to stop asking her if she's bored. You might just be annoying her a little bit. Try not to be as needy or insecure. I wouldn't ignore her, cos she's obviously aware that you are worried about it and she'll just think you are playing games. Try to go out with your mates, have a good time, and let her worry for once.
2007-02-05 16:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line, are you making an effort?? Or do you just go around to hers and sit and watch telly? Do you still take her places, do interesting things, do you make romantic gestures? If you're in a comfortable rut, she could well be bored and listless.
You can't make her keen, all you can do is make yourself desirable and attractive.
2007-02-05 16:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find out what you do that annoys her and stop it. Like for instance if you text people when your around her. (its what my girlfriend does aaa soo annoying) Just make her smile, its nice to be sweet to her but girls really want a man that can make them laugh/smile. Good luck
2007-02-05 16:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont like to say this but im in the same situation only im the female..... with me well the guy has some stuff i dont like and i just got tired of putting up with it so hes kinda like a habit im so sorry if its not what you want to hear GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-05 16:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cierra S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be just comfortable with the relationship, enjoy it, that is kind of how marriage ends up you enjoy each others company, but don't feel like you have to jump through hoops to please them any more. If you don't like the way things are yourself, then let her know. It sounds like you are the one not happy not her.
2007-02-05 16:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it feels like this now whats it gonna be like in 2 or 3 years??????? i think you know the answer.
2007-02-05 16:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by country boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never talking like that about her.
2007-02-05 16:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her well...... and devote yourself to her! Give your body to her and show her how much you love her. Give her your goods and she will know how much she means to you.
2007-02-05 16:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by phantomdream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋