My sister has some issues. there is some talk amongst our family that she should get "anger management counceling".
However she has refused this as she feels that if we were supportive of her we would accept that she is a "yeller".
I don't think she gets that yelling is somewhat harsh to the "yellee", let alone her children. also she sometimses goes beyond just yellng.
So anyway, this "anger management counceling" would probably only happen if we were to take the drastic step of getting her commited.
I don't want to do anything that drastic if it isn't going to work, hence my question.
Does it?
2007-02-05 08:05:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I should point out at his time she has never actually hit or physically hit her children that anyone knows of.
However she has attacked both my mother and her hubby.
I agree that pure commital is iffy, but one way would be to press changes for these assault and get the counceling mandated by the trial judge as part of her sentence. Again this is somewhat drastic, but my wife got absolutly creamed for just sugesting her that she read some materials on anger management, so unless its foced, it ain't gonna hapen.
2007-02-05 08:30:55 · update #1
anger management does work. the problem is you have to want it to work. i know . one of my family members been through it. please get them in to counceling as soon as possible if u can. it will destroy a family if its not taken care of.
2007-02-05 08:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
why dont she just bite it and beat the crap out of the bed with a belt or buy a big bad bob to kick?? (RATHER THAN THE KIDS!)
take up a sport like kick boxing or something to get the agression out..
remember you are just seeing the tip of the ice burg of what is causing the problem though...
she can not push her problem on to you guys for not supporting her... she is an adult and has to take responsibility for her own actions.
my friend has anger problems like this.. she murdered the hoover and felt a lot better for it...
a girl at work has an asbo.. just lifted and had to go to anger management classes... they have not really done much, they have helped a bit... but she still goes off on one for no reason on a regular basis... a bit like vicky pollard in little britain for want of a better way to describe her.
and if none of that works tell her you will report her to social services for hitting the kids as that is totally unacceptable and they need protection and help far more.
2007-02-05 08:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by millibb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it works BUT I don't think you can commit somebody for yelling or not being in control of her anger unless she has serious psychiatric issues that a doctor will testify to.
To help her get the counselling (which is a good thing in my opinion) she needs to recognise that her anger is an issue which effects many people and will have an impact on the way her children develop. How about if all of you who are concerned (her family, close friends, children) had a kind of intervention to let her know how much it hurts and scares you and her children?
2007-02-05 08:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Pegasus 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It can help in a very positive way, first she will recognize that she is in fact full of anger and that she is turning it on her family and probably friends.
How about when she drives what is she like?
If she abusing her children then you or someone needs to step in to protect them. Let me repeat she is not aware of what she is doing. the 2nd thing that will happen is she will have someone to talk all of this out with, and a perspective on the source of the anger. The children are the most important thing in all of this. Find a name of a counselor and then as a group have an intervention. She is not a yeller she is in distress
2007-02-05 08:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by lakelover 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It does for those with a very serious problem with uncontrolled anger.
For those who have a moderate to a mild case of anger, and hatred, the book called:
"Working With Anger."
BY: Thubten Chodron works well.
It teaches how to successfully develope patience, and how to continue to cultivate patience, to always keep anger under control.
From: A Psychologist with a Master's Degree.
2007-02-05 08:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anger management counseling works, to some extent, if a person WANTS to learn techniques to be more socially correct.
People carry anger because of unhealed hurts. The real answer is to figure out how you were hurt and heal it.
Many times we must grieve a loss that we aren't even admitting to ourselves exists. And sometimes we must grieve "What should have been, but wasn't." Best of luck with your sister.
2007-02-05 08:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion? Nope, it's crap. And here's my two main reasons:
About 8 years ago, I worked with a guy whose brother was participating in anger management classes. He chased his estranged wife out of the house and shot her to death in the middle of the road in broad daylight and then killed himself.
My younger brother went to anger management about 4 years ago...he was arrested Thursday for beating up his girlfriend.
Update 2/6/07 - FYI...it was court ordered for my brother - 6 months of anger management which he had to pay for out of his pocket (not cheap) - didn't do a bit of good!
2007-02-05 08:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boss had to take it. It worked somewhat on him.
He is not as loud....but he still yells.
2007-02-05 08:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by riptide_71 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋