I have recently started seeing a guy and I thought things were good. We get on great etc etc. Anyway I saw him the other day and he started saying he wanted to go away somewhere hot with me on holiday in the summer.
My response was prob. the wrong one because I ended up saying 'oh but you might be bored of me by then anyway' I was only really saying it in a flirty kinda way... but anyway he then went on to say really confidently that he was sure 'he could find someone else no problem' I didn't respond although it kinda hurt!
Then when he was on his laptop and made a point of showing me some of the girls that 'were after him on myspace.' Again I tried hard not to respond!
Now I am really confused!! Is he jst trying to make me jealous or is he trying to imply we are only ever going to be casual? he did mention how great it was to be in a fun relationship without any resposibility or commitment.
Help! I am terrible at reading men!
2007-02-05 08:04:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lose him. He is insecure, and trying to make your feel that way, too (to bring you to his level). This guy will only bring your self-esteem down. Run!
2007-02-05 08:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by robinwritergal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as terrible as you are at reading men...he's even more terrible at being a man. Anyone who would show someone all the girls that "were after him" is an utter and complete moron. You're wasting your time with this guy. Now, I'm not saying dump him...but be realistic that he's not going to be good for you so get what YOU want out of the relationship (whatever that may be) and if you don't get your needs met? Jettison him.
2007-02-05 08:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by digdowndeepnseattle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, guys have this huge ego, and I think he was expecting you to jump up and down and say yes right on the spot. He probably felt a little rejected and then embarassed, so he had to show you that he could take anyone and you were just another number.
He sounds a little insecure, probably not a total jerk, but just a little bruised. You should talk to him again and explain that you would love to go...guys can't read our minds either! You have to give a yes or no or they are clueless! I understand you were expecting him to say that he wouldn't be tired of you, but he didn't get it.
Talk about it, and good luck!
(if it does turn out that he is a "playa" you are better off anyway.
2007-02-05 08:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by AJM 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you deserve better. I had a guy that sounds just like this. And we didn't last very long. He ended up being a big jerk. I was kinda mad that I waisted my time on this guy that was just not somebody that was worth it. You should think about being happy in a relationship with a guy that will treat you right and not be ready to up and leave you in the blink of an eye for some other girl.
2007-02-05 08:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by grumpybear0718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was trying to make you jealous, since he may have though you were giving him the brush-off (ie, you were reluctant to plan that far ahead since you didn't know if YOU still wanted to be dating him). This is why playing games makes everyone lose.
But his last comment does make it seem like he's pulling back and doesn't want a real relationship with you. So you need to start being honest with him (and not play word games or put yourself down) and tell him if you want to pursue a committed relationship with him.
When in doubt - communicate!
2007-02-05 08:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just in it for the fun. Take things slowly so you will be less vulnerable to getting hurt. Most guys aren't going to come flat out and say they just want to mess around because that would likely reduce their chances of 'getting some'. Enjoy it for what it is, but if it's not what you want then don't settle.
2007-02-05 08:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is full of it. What's he going to do hop into the computer. You really don't like him, do you?
He's an idiot and I don't need to hear anymore, unless you are not being honest. I doubt that cause it's a bit ridiculous. Tell him peeky-boo I can see through you. See how he is now, thank God for the preview. You sound like a nice girl and out there is your perfect partner, I hope he shows up soon...
2007-02-05 08:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he did mention how great it was to be in a fun relationship without any resposibility or commitment"
I think you said it all honey. Your not in a "relationship" that has no responsibility or comitment. A relationship is responsability and comitment. With out that you are just a piece of @ss!
2007-02-05 08:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by frenchie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my opinion... You guys have a "mutual" understanding, those are suppose to be fun and adventurous. Stop sweating the small things, that's to keep your attention and keep you focused on him. If you really like him and want to be in a relationship then you are in the wrong game, "mutual" arrangements are hard if that's what you're looking for. Good luck.
2007-02-05 08:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by sweettrini1012 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is trying to make you jealous. letting you know he would have no problem finding other girls that want him. so it is his way of saying, if you mess up then i will dump you and find me some other girl. i would tell him to "f" off and find yourself someone else. don't let him have all the power, see what he will do if you start talking about other guys. see if that works and if he does not care then dump him
2007-02-05 08:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by bone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he did mention how great it was to be in a fun relationship without any responsibility or commitment.
that comment says it all - obviously he is not taking any of it serious......either make a commitment (even if it ends up being short term) or - I would get out.....showing you other women - is mean and hurtful - don't let him emotionally abuse like that
2007-02-05 08:08:14 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋