How many do you have and how is it working for you?
2007-02-05 08:01:48 · 25 answers · asked by greeneyedprincess 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my oldest is almost 9 in march, my middle we didnt have till almost 5 years later, and the baby is 19 months. i LOVED the spacing out of the first to. gave me lots of time with ,y oldest to enjoy those things, after a 2nd child you never really have that one on one again like that. plus it was easier on me cause the oldest loves to help and didnt depend on me to much, was easier to care for a newborn that way. the middle and last are 2.5 yrs apart. and was kinda hard to keep up with things she needed and what a newborn needed. i think spaced out a bit is better. gives the kids a chance to be around everyone on there own for a while befor introducing a new sibling. plus they grow so fast, if you have them back to back, they all pretty much grow up all at once. its a hard personal choice though, some prefer them close together, others prefer them spaced apart, you just have to look at your own personal life and figure out whats best for your family and kids. good luck!
2007-02-05 08:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by saphirespice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband and I have four ages 17, 8, 6, 3. As must be obvious the first was definitely not planned! I think a lot depends on the kids little personalities. The 17 and 3 yr old are really happy in a big old mix of kids their own age. The 8 yr old would be most content as an only child! The six yr old is female and just deals with whatever is handed her in life! My house is crazy and chaotic but I always have a babysitter! There are pros and cons to almost any mix. We can't find a vacation that appeals to all 4 of them but it was nice to have time to raise one out of infanthood before we started in on raising a 2nd.
2007-02-05 08:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children, all 3 1/2 years apart. Ages 24, 21 & soon to be 18. They're great kids, and have grown in to wonderful adults. It wasn't planned, but it worked out great!
2007-02-05 08:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3yr old and one on the way. They will be almost 3.5 yrs apart when i give birth. Yes, it was planned that way, my brother and i are 3yrs apart and i always thought it was ideal.
So far it's working great, my son knows there's a baby in my tummy, not sure if he really knows what's going on but i'm pretty sure he'll be a big help. He loves babies and never seems jealous over other children. hopefully it's that easy once the baby is here but you never know.
2007-02-05 08:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 17 month old son and I'm 3 months pregnant. So they will be right at 2 years apart and it was planned. I wanted them close but of course I know it will be hard. It's hard now :)
2007-02-05 08:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 kids are 3&1/2 years apart.It amounted to 4 school years apart. I think it is perfect. 2yrs. is not enough b/c at 2 they are still babys and require attension all the time. At 3 most kids are independant,talking and want to help you. With 4 school yrs. apart the parents have only 1 in college at a time.
2007-02-05 08:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dotr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest daughter will be a little over 19 months when her sister is born. It was planned that way, and actually we had hoped it would be closer, but it took me a little longer to get pregnant. I think it will be wonderful and there are a lot of reports that closer siblings have closer bonds later in life. That was important to me. I got some information from the american academy of pediatrics, talked to our doctor and read some books before I decided on when to have our second. Good Luck!
2007-02-05 08:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 3 my son is 2. Their 18 months apart and i think its perfect. I love that they are so close. They are best friends. Wherever my husband and I take them they are pretty much on the same level, so they both enjoy it. You know, I believe its great either way. I have friends who say they love that their kids are spaced more and friends like me who love our children being back to back. We didn't plan it - they were suprises and I love how it turned out. My husband is one of 14 and he is so grateful for them all having that close (in age) sibling to grow up with.
2007-02-05 08:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by justus4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby #2 is on it's way, due March 10th, and my son will be turning 2 at the end of May (23rd). It was not planned, but I am glad that I did get pregnant, because I've always wanted two kids, but we had almost decided that we couldnt have another one if I wanted to finish my education(convenience-wise). Who knows how it will go, but so far, my son has been more supportive to me during this pregnancy than my husband! lol. He likes me to lift my shirt so he can "be nice" to the baby (gently rub my tummy), he puts lotion on my tummy, and hugs me lots. And when he gets tired, he likes to snuggle up to my tummy. If he's lying with me while he sleeps, he even seems to end up pressed up close as he can get to my tummy, and rubs it in his sleep (either that, or my cheeks). I'm sure he loves this baby, and hopefully the help and love and especially the gentleness will last!
2007-02-05 08:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 8 and my daughter is 5. Yes I planned it that way. It works for me and my hubby. We never had to worry about 2 in diapers at the same time and they are close enough in age where they sometimes play together too.
2007-02-05 08:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋