Recently i cheated on my partner whom i have been with for four years. Im 21 and ever since i have been pregnant with our first child he has accused me of cheating on him and not once had i ever done it. He controls me in every aspect of my life it is his way or the highway and tells me to leave and he will raise the kids. Anyway he found out last night that i had slept with this other guy and he wants me to feel ashamed for what i have done, I feel no shame but im really proud of myself, he wants me to stay but i don't love him and i have told him this and he still wants us to be a family, my life is a living hell, I just want to know what should i do, should i stay and be unhappy or go and provide a better life for me and my kids?
2007-02-05 07:57:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn’t stay with someone that you’re not happy with. I’m sure that your children can see that you’re not happy. Why would you want you and your children to be miserable? Anyone out there that wants to truly care for you and love you as you deserve isn’t going to approach you because they can see the misery on your face. Get rid of your miserable mate, move on with your life. You can provide a better way of life for yourself and your children. If you feel that you can’t then take him to court to support your children if he’s the father and between the support and what you feel you can provide is a start. This is 2007, your new year’s resolution should be to have a better, happier, healthier and safer life for you and your children. Move on and be happy! Girl you deserve more than what that control freak is offering or giving. Leave his backside down on rock bottom. Let him see that he’s not better off without you. As far as you cheating, don’t feel about it. You were finding happiness for yourself something that he’s not willing to give you. I don’t know you but let me know when you’ve taken back your life and taken control of your life and have gotten rid of your trash.
2007-02-05 08:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but you should really end a relationship before you start seeing other people. The Poor man's heartbroken, what the hell do you expect, imagine it was him doing this to you. What a Nightmare Right? You kinda contradict yourself, you say you recently cheated on him, then say not once have I ever done it. Stop feeling like its all about you. I would want to know where you were too especially if you make can time to sleep with other people. You should feel ashamed, when you finally part from him, you will feel it then. When your child grows up, without a father it wont be because of him, it will be because of you. If you feel you need to take your child away, do it but I'd say you have a fight on your hands - A good one too.
2007-02-05 11:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go and find a better life for you and your kids unless he gets help for his problems. It sounds like he loves you but you don't love him. You said you had just cheated on him. I don't know what else you expect, he is going to be hurt and treat you like that after you do such a thing. About how he acted before, if you had not cheated before this recent cheat, then he must been insecure. If you don't feel ashamed I think you should leave asap, because it sounds like all your doing is hurting each other. The relationship itself is very unhealthy between you two.
2007-02-05 08:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there. If you really feel that you don't love him and that you don't want to be there then go. If you guys have a kid together its not good for the child to be exposed to everything either. Don't let the kids see you guys so unhappy. Be happy and run
2007-02-05 08:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you found out a lie. when I found out a minor lie that my husband advised me, i threw a spatula around the room whilst cooking and extraordinarily much broke each little thing in the homestead. the issue with a million lie is that allllll the have faith you outfitted up and alllll you have on your courting is made a comedian tale simply by fact the a million man or woman you dedicated your self to trusting make it easier to down. identity call off the engagement for yet another a million-2 years. intercourse and kissing could be between you 2. What happens once you're married and he pulls that crap? And dont say he wont simply by fact hes completed it as quickly as and two times is a charm!! think of approximately it.
2016-10-01 11:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be done with it now... if you know you don't love him, don't waste your life on him & miss a chance at true happiness... Trust me it is much better to end things while the children are little, then to let it drag out for years & let them see how unhappy you really are... Good Luck...
2007-02-05 08:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have things clear......and inside of you, you know what to do....leave him if you are not happy and don't love him. If it is the other way around stay with him and talk things over....both of you have to commit to new things, and try finding a marriage counselor.....I am a psychologist and I can only give you these two options, you decide and then seek for professional help
2007-02-05 08:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are cheating on him in hopes for a guaranteed termination of the relationship. Unfortunately, it seems to have backfired! If you can easily say that you do not love him, then there's your answer. You should leave him. It'll be even harder after the baby comes. Good luck!
2007-02-05 08:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til he goes to wrok, and dissappear. Do not tell him where you are going. Do not go to your parents or anywhere where he will think to look. If you're in the same town still. Abusers always get worse. It is the one problem, where we don't even pretend to have a treatment. Just get out anyway you can. Good luck.
2007-02-05 08:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go and provide a happy, healthy life for you and your kids. If you were not happy and he was doing this, you need to find where you are happy as a happy mom is better for kids.
2007-02-05 08:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋