I met this girl a little over a year ago (I was 19 at the time and she was 17, still in High School, now I'm 20 and she's 18), we met because we were dance partners in one of my cousins party. I really didn't have strong feelings for her at first, but the more times I would see her at rehearsal my feelings became stronger. I found her on myspace telling her that I really liked her (It has almost been a year already when I told her this) and had feelings for her, (I didn't tell her in person because of our age differences, I feel like an idiot now for not telling her in person or at least over the phone) but in return she told me she was "talking" to someone at the time, she told me I was a great guy and all. The last time I saw her was 7 months ago when she invited me to a graduation party she had. We didn't talk at all because a lot of her family and friends were there and she had to attend to them all the time. I sent her 2 messages on myspace during a span of 7 months (they weren't back to back, one in June and one in January) trying to ask her out, but I got no responses. I think she's shy or at least I hope she is, but she is still available. I don't have her number and I feel so stupid to even ask her for it now over mypspace, since I feel like I messed up big time and her thinking I'm an idiot, gosh I feel so bad right now, what can I do to clean this mess I made ? We don't really keep in touch that often, what should I say to her if I do decide to message her again? and how do I found out how she feels about me? Any good advice would be greatly appreciated.
2007-02-05 07:51:57 · 11 answers · asked by Mr. X 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me as if you like her much more than she likes you.....I think you should give up on her.
2007-02-13 05:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your fantasy about what was influence what is. We tend as humans to immortalize people from our past, forget the wrong they did or we did and somehow put the whole thing in a glorious light. It probably wasn't as great as you are remembering. Let go and move on. You have changed and grown, look for somebody that matches who you are now and who you want to be. Abscense makes the heart grow fonder, but don't let that fondness obscure your judgment.. that's all it is.. I have personally been there, done it .. regretted it. Not once or twice.. but it took me 3 times to learn to leave the past.. in the past.
2007-02-13 02:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you did scare this girl, reading between the lines, you was a good friend and thats all she wanted from you, lets face the truth mate, if she was romantically interested in you, she would have been in touch. the best thing you can do is be honest. tell her that you was an idiot for not telling her face to face, tell her if theres no chance of a relationship, you woould still like to be friends. and putting it nicely ask to let you know either way as not knowing is upsetting you. theres nothing wrong with a guy having a delicate side to him, so tell her your true feelings, and good luck mate.
2007-02-05 16:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by JENeylon 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
..Well has she been on myspace?...I mean if she has read the message. myspace is the easiest way to answer a question if a girl is shy. She's not really telling her feelings face to face. She seems like she doesn't like you but she doesn't want to tell you.
I don't know if this girl is really into you.And I don't know if you really want to waist your time trying to get this girl. While other great girls could be passin you up in the process.
2007-02-05 16:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by grumpybear0718 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her axactly what you have just tols thousands of strangers!!! tell her he like her alot, and would like to give it a shot,and if she is not interested thats cool tell her you would like to remain friends.. at least this way she will think your being mature about the situation and if you guys become firends... things could go from there... friendship and trust is a great base for a good relationship!!
2007-02-13 09:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by lollie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u hav 2 get ova her because she wont respond bac to u
if she liked u bac she would talk to u more on myspace and stuff.
if u get her # maybe try 2 talk to her more but if not just hold bac on her b4 u freak her out
2007-02-13 15:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down ur a little 2 nervous which is probably ur down fall. you should try just sending her a hey how ya doin message. don't mention ur crush or ask if she's dating. and just build up a friendship i think ur trying 2 hard and want to go too fast. but i wish u luck and may be you could consider moving on
2007-02-05 16:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to send her a message about hows everything and see if she sends you a message or then maybe she just wants to be friends.
2007-02-13 15:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Nocurfew313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell her in person you could tell how she really feels for you...if she tells you she'd go out with you then she wants you...but if she says something else she probably just wants to be friends....before you try anything i would suggest getting her number and chillin with her and your friends so you could get to know her better...then ask her to go out with you
2007-02-05 15:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she was interested she'd have written you back
2007-02-13 13:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋