My gf is going to get marry this sunday with the person who helped her family for more than 2 years. I love her alot and even she loves me. but the problem is that she is not able to tell her feeling neither to her parents nor his fiancee. She says that arrangement has been done and its very late now. What should I do now ?. I dont want to loose her.
2007-02-05 07:47:05 · 36 answers · asked by Thoole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i'd be walking to her parents and offer her hand in marriage! IF you really do love her !
2007-02-05 07:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she comes from a traditional society with arranged marriages, her parents would probably never allow her to marry a boyfriend. Your heart will be broken for a while, but you should just move on. Perhaps your family can make an arrangement for you as well. Don't forget, parents have a lot of life experience that can be used for your benefit. I wish you luck with forgetting her and finding a wonderful wife of your own one day.
2007-02-05 07:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how you feel. What's up with her marry someone else. If she's your girlfriend then why is she marring someone else? I think it's really wrong for her parents to have her marry someone that she doesn't love. If she loves you and feels the same way about it as you do. Then I think she really needs to tell her parents how she feels. Like Now. Before it's to late. Why should she spend the rest of her life being unhappy because of her parents and what they want. This should be about her and want she wants. Tell her to not do this. It would be wrong for her and for him. Good Luck
2007-02-05 07:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really loves you and goes ahead and gets married it will be a big mistake on her part.
why she needs to repay the family "debt" with the rest of her life to this person????? what kind of family would make her do that???
for you its catch 22... do you risk it and stand up and say i object I love her... or do you let her go... that is hard.
all i can say is that when i got married although i did not love anyone else at the time i knew as soon as I said "i do" i had made the biggest mistake of my life and it took 7 years of hell to get out.
all i can say is that you should stop and think very carefully and good luck!!!
oh... and you should never be second best to any one.
especially not another husband!
2007-02-05 08:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by millibb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer your question since the details on your "gf" are limited. Reading between the lines, it appears to be an arranged marriage - and, depending on the families beliefs it may well be past the time that you can do anything but gracefully say goodbye and move on with your life.
2007-02-05 07:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by Isaac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello You need to tell her. If she don't call it off and you really want her as much as you say you do. Tell her fiancee that this girl has been cheating on him. Then he will call of the wedding, well hopefully. You could also go to the wedding and call it off and in front of everyone you could tell her how much you love her. Then the wedding will either end or go on. So you have lots of options you just need to pick one. Good Luck
2007-02-05 07:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages are bound by old and rich tradition. I am sorry for the pain you feel, perhaps if you of the same backround, even though it hurts, you willl understand that these arrangements are usually made far in advance, in some cases for many years.
2007-02-05 08:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it sounds like this is your girlfriend's decision.
If she is in love with you and marrying someone else for any other reason but love, she needs to stop her wedding.
Her family should want her to be happy, but she may feel too much pressure to make everyone happy to do anything but go ahead with the wedding.
You need to tell her in no uncertain terms that she will lose you if she marries this other man. That should persuade her to be with you. If it doesn't, you need to step back and leave her to her life with him.
Please do not continue your relationship with her if she does marry. You will miss her, but it will only cause deeper hurt feelings as time goes on.
You deserve someone who will love you wholeheartedly, and share their life with you completely. If your current girlfriend cannot give you that, please give yourself the chance to find someone who can truly make you happy.
Good luck to you, and I hope this helps. :)
2007-02-05 07:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! I am so sorry to hear that! my suggestion to you is to talk with her one on one. Explain to her how much you love and want to be with her and maybe marry her! Tell her that if she goes through with this marriage you two will no longer be able to be together!! Try to explain the importance of her calling this off, because she is the only one that can! Unless you pull a movie stunt and tell the fiance and her father that she doesnt want to marry him she wants to marry you! Well good luck to you and God bless!!!
2007-02-05 07:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Porter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, my heart bleeds for you, but you lost her. If she can't stand up to her parents (out of fear or obligation), than she wasn't strong enough to break the arrangement to be with you. Arranged marriages are tough things, but sometimes good things come out of them. You need to be the bigger of the two and let her go. You should congradulate her and wish her the best. If you can't do that than you need to stay away. (no contact). Sorry I couldn't give you advice you wanted to hear. Please take care.
2007-02-06 17:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you she should not be getting married. If she gets married she may have children and you do nopt want to be hanging around if she does as that's not fair on the kids. Sort it out now one way or another
2007-02-05 07:51:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋