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Question

i just found out that my best friend has been cutting herself for a long time.she says she sees a counseler but they dont know about it. Her parents cannot find out or she will get in a LOT of trouble. it terrifys me and i dont know what to do. Please help?

i really cannot tell her parents. you dont know them, they will be really angry, her brother had the same problem a few years ago and he was kicked out of the house

Answer 1

if she is seeing a counselor then it sounds like she is working towards getting the help she needs

Answer 2

First off, the most important thing is for you to be there for her no matter what. Be willing to listen to her if she needs someone to listen to her. A lot of times you won't even have to say anything, all she will want is to talk. There are times she may be looking for you to say something, normally all she wants to know is that she is not alone through this hard time and that there is someone that does care about her.

I would see if she was for sure telling the truth about a counselor and if she has one that she is talking about the issues dealing with cutting.

On another note, I don't know the parents or what they are like, BUT I do know that eventually they will find out. Whether it is by her saying something or just them noticing something. If they are really good parents they will have already noticed that their daughter isn't the same, they may not know that she is cutting, but they probably know that she isn't acting like herself. Through my own experience, even though it was the hardest thing for me to do, the parents need to know. When I told my mom, I had to do it through an email, and I 'hid' in my room until I knew she had read it. It was hard, and at first I regretted telling her, but I know it probably was the best. Definitely don't push her to tell her parents, but if they are good parents, they should know.

Another benefit to telling her parents, if they are loving parents, is that she will have more support, which is what she needs right now. She doesn't need to be suffocated with support, but she needs just enough to get her trough and to know that people do love her and are there no matter what. So above all else just be there for her, and also remember she will never get better until she wants to get better. Don't push her to get better, just be there for her, and in her timing she will come around with the support of those that love her.

Answer 3

Then tell a counselor at school and ask where you can help her get help if her parents would kick her out for doing that then they arent true parents at all and need to fall off the face of the earth so talk to the resource person at school and explain the situation dont use names if you dont want but figure out some kinda intervention and go with it other than talking about it i dont know what to tell you so good luck

Answer 4

You could volunteer to go with her to a counseling appt and talk about it with her. She might not feel comfortable telling the counselor by herself, she might be afraid of judgement. If she doesn't want you to go with her just let her know you are there for her and want to help her get better. If you are really worried maybe go directly to her counselor if you know who it is and let them know what is going on. She may be angry with you at first but in the long run she needs help more than anything and once she has that help she will realize you did the right thing to help her. But don't think that you can help her by yourself she needs professional help, just try to help her get that. Good luck , I hope she gets the help she needs.

Answer 5

If she can give you her counselor's name and/or location, then she's telling the truth. If she's not willing to give you any information about who she's seeing, then I'd wonder if she's really seeing anyone at all. If that's the case, then I would definitely tell a school counselor about it! That way, she can get the help she needs without having to reveal the problem to her parents...Really hope all works out for her. Cutting can become an addictive and unhealthy solution to problems.

Answer 6

if you say that you love her then do something before you find her dead. i am a recovering cutter I for 3 years and one night i really did not want to feel emotional pain that the reason we cut. i slid my artery both my wrist , i guess GOD had other plans for me my best friend showed up took to hospital and they saved me i was on lock up for 10 days and 20 day with people like me I got a counselr. the first thing is to get to causes , condition. i had so much inside of mr i could tell anyone ,but now yjat layer of onion is so small. i do no have to cut ome day at a time

Answer 7

sounds like her parents might be part of her problem. encourage her to talk to her counselor about it and to tell the counselor about the brother and the parents reaction. He will be able to help. i know it is hard when a friend is in trouble and you can't help them. but she needs to get help from a professional there isn't much you can do except be a friend to her.

Answer 8

1-800-dont-cut this is a hotline for cutters call it they will be able to give your professional suggestions on how to handle this... sounds like her parents are the problem and maybe they can help make other arrangements for her living situation. Good Luck I have said a prayer for your friend.

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