I never thought that I would end up being with someone who has a disability, but I've fallen in love with a woman who has a disability. She has a four year old daughter as well. It's amazing how you can grow. On our first date, I worried about where I was going to park and how to react (i.e. should I open the car door for her, or will she think I'm trying to "help" her too much, etc). Now, I usually forget that she has a disability. I don't even think about it. I've had my own PERSONALITY disabillity issues, but she has stuck with me and loves me. So, can anyone share their experiences about dating someone with a physical disability, or if they've fallen for someone who has one? I would love to hear some good stories.
2007-02-05 07:31:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems like people are missing the jist of my question. I'm not asking whether or not I should ask her if she wants a helping hand, etc. I know her well enough to know when she wants help and when she doesn't. I just used an anecdote at the beginning to describe how I acted, and how I perceived her on our first date.
2007-02-05 07:48:24 · update #1
when you care about someone it is a learning experience,whether they have a disability or not. Life with someone is a learning and growing experience. people get into trouble with relationships when they allow themselves to stagnate in their own world. Stay alert ,happy and continue to grow to get to know her.and she you. healthy alert and aware. Have fun. Life is short. Enjoy every minute you have together.
2007-02-05 07:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodman, God bless you. Having a disability myself I can say that the woman you love is the luckiest woman in the world. How you have opened up your heart is a testament to the power of the human spirit to see the person as a person and not as disabled.
I wish I could be as happy as you as most women I have met are at best uncomfortable being around disabled people. Hopefully, these people will grow as you have.
I wish I had good stories to tell you, but yours is the best I have ever heard.
2007-02-05 12:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really admire people who dare to share their live with a person with a physical disability!! They are a real example of the meaning of love!!
My aunt got married a man with no hands and with one leg (he was hurt in the war)! He could walk as his one leg was cut from the ankle, he was wearing boots. He had false hands at the first years, but as the time was passing, he didn't use them any more... My aunt was the one who was feeding him, she was helping him having a shower and generally she was doing everything for him. She spent her whole life by his side! They had 5 children together and 10 grandchildren. They got old together. He died last year...
Isn't it a great example of true love and offer to the person someone REALLY loves? I think this is something really admirable! This is what true love is!
2007-02-05 07:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like such a great person. I wish there were more people with your frame of mind. You said you forget she has a disability and that is great because you are seeing the real person that she is not the physical. Wow if only I could meet someone who would see me not the physical me (I'm overweight). Good luck with everything. Commend her on her achievements of raising her daughter by herself. She knows her disability is not a secret and it would make her feel good to hear that. Too often people think they shouldn't say something in fear of offending her. If she's out dating she knows questions are bound to arise. Good luck!!! and have Fun!!!!
2007-02-05 07:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin spice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her are you helping to much. dating a person with physical disability is OK yes i have date someone with a disability problem and it OK love care about a person is all good things so be happy well you can live your life the best way.
2007-02-05 07:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by jazz0172300 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Q and your story both make perfect sense to me.
I'm with you on the personality disability thing; I'm in the same boat. It's fairer (to the physically disabled, to the able-bodied, and to the "personality disabled" themselves) to acknowledge that for what it is. Good call.
Answer is Yes, of course, but it has never happened.
2007-02-07 08:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the expression "love is blind". I'm glad you got over your fear of being "too helpful", just because she has a disability, does'nt mean she's no different than you and me. I personally have never dated anyone with a handicap--just emotionally, lol. But this sounds like a beautiful thing, wish you guys the best of luck!!
2007-02-05 07:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her how she feels about being helped, how much is too much, and what she is capable of doing on her own. She is the single mom of a four year old child, so she sounds like a pretty amazing woman.
2007-02-05 07:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely date a guy with disabilities if there is connection between us.
additional to that, if his God's complex works fine that is a major ability.
2007-02-05 07:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I NEVER dated high school boys, NEVER, but then I met one thru my brother...... *laughing*, my brother kinda forced me to go out with him and this guy to a dance...... anyway, he was from a family of rice farmers in South Texas.... I did not know it at the time, but this guy had lost his leg due to an accident in the rice field, but later, after going out with him a few times I found out..... sooooo, anyway, this guy and my brother were seniors in HS.... long story short , we met, we dated for 3 months, we married, and been happy for 30 yrs...... with age a few problems have come up, health with him, but I love him !!!!! we have 3 grown sons , 5 grand sons and 1 precious grand daughter...... People are People !!!!! LOVE is LOVE !!!!!!!!! God bless
2007-02-05 07:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋