My girlfriend broke up with me last night. I tried to act like it didn't bother her. After breaking up with me she called me and told me she was sad and things were going to be odd without me in her life. This morning she called me and told me she wanted me back. I said OK i wanted to work it out as well. But today she seems so depressed. I text her today while i was at work she replied with an "I'm having a bad day can't talk" I I called her 3 times before she actually picked up and she told me she couldn't talk. I asked her to talk to me for five seconds and she just told me about how bad her day was. Then she told me she had to run because she has grocery shopping to do and errands to run for her mother who is sick with the flu. I said fine. She's acting VERY ODD to towards me today almost like she's not interested in me. We both have off Wednesday from our usually hectic schedule and i asked her if she would like to get coffee she said "No thanks." WHAT IS GOING ON?? I'M CONFUSED!
2007-02-05 07:29:26 · 24 answers · asked by Mark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's playing passive-agressive. You didn't act all sad when she broke up with you. She really didn't want to breakup and did so to see how you would react. She was hoping you would beg her back. She ended up chasing you. Now that she has you back, she's pretending to be all "upset" so you can continually ask her what's wrong. She's seeking attention. You aren't playing her game right...tsk on you. Seriously, she needs to get her act together. You can't play games with people's heads like that. I would sit down with her and have a real down to earth talk about what you two really want.
2007-02-05 07:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she hasn't figured out what she wants as far as the relationship goes. Most people stay for way too long in relationships that are lacking- and you may make that decision...
But you should remember that you deserve to date someone who is absolutely crazy about you and has a stable, healthy, respectful attitude. You can not meet the right person while you are dating the wrong person. You block yourself from finding a fun loving healthy relationship when you are in limbo with the wrong girl.
My advice is to take some time away from this flake, and find out who you are and what you want out of life (even beyond relationship type of stuff) and then go for it. With self discipline in a few years you will be so far ahead of who you are today. You'll wonder why you ever even considered settling (or putting up with) Miss Flake. Plus, when you better yourself and become confident in what you want in life- you make yourself a million times more attractive to women.
2007-02-05 07:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by quirky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's confused. Give her some space, so she can be clear about what she wants. Sounds like she's not happy with the relationship but isn't ready to be alone, or there's a possibility, she ended the relationship with you in hopes that something else may work out & she's depressed that maybe she got dumped by him and that's why she took you back.
I say tell her to get her **** together and don't talk to her for a while. I know it will be hard, but you both need some space.
2007-02-05 07:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? It sounds like she broke up with you to be free for another man, one whom she thought wanted that. Then she began to regret it, think about being without you and pulled back by morning. Going back to work reset her on the other path though. Perhaps a friend stiffened her nerve or perhaps she was near the other man at work and went back into wanting him mode. Then she let him know and he put her off, let her know she misunderstood. And now that she's committed her head and heart, she feels very awkward about being back with you and isn't sure she wants to go that direction. The dichotomy is ruining her day. She wants the bird in the hand (you) in a general sense, but holds back because she shifted in her head when she told the bird in the bush (him). Now she's not sure of several things. Maybe he will be interested when he thinks about it a while. Maybe she wants to keep you, hope she re-sparks. Or has you until she tries again for a different man. Cares for you enough to not want to treat you that way. Lots to think on and be depressed at what she is thinking about herself now.
But... it's hard to say, not knowing her and all.
2007-02-05 07:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by roynburton 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds indecisive, maybe she wants you in her life but at the same time does not want you in her life. She could be having a bad day. You mention you tried to act like it didn't bother her, sounds like you think you have her wrapped. Maybe she is showing you that you don't. Don't take this the wrong way, that's my opinion on this question.
2007-02-05 07:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably confused too. Give her a little space then try talking to her again. If she is still acting weird and won't work things out with you, then you need to move on. There's no sense in trying to mend a relationship if the other person won't help mend it too.
2007-02-05 07:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by angelgurl13191 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is taking you on a emotional rollercoaster let her come to you if she really wants to be with you she wouldn't be treating you this way. Maybe she is seeing someone else are she just needs a break in any case dont let her string you along for the ride
2007-02-05 07:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is more confused than you are.... she either has met some one and is NOT sure of her feelings for him or she is just at a bad place in her own life.... call her and ask her if you could just please have about an hour of her time, that you would like to talk about what is going on..... if she refuses then you have your answer I am afraid...... if she does agree, do NOT accuse her but ask her if there is another in her life and ask her just where she sees YOU in her life..... be prepared tho, you may not like what you hear but at least you will know if you need to move on or what......... God bless
2007-02-05 07:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants. Just back off for a while. Stop calling her. Just wait for her to call you, and then tell her you're ready to talk when she wants to talk, but that you're just going to stand back until she does, because she's sending you mixed messages right now.
2007-02-05 07:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say: forget about her. She felt the emptiness when she broke up with you and she was looking for her safety only not thinking of you. She is selfish and not worth your feelings. Just move on. I am so sorry to tell you that But I think that is what I would want to hear when it happens to me.
2007-02-05 07:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jay C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋