I've been talking to a lovely man for a month now by phone and email. He has twice cancelled a date to meet me, but continues to persue me. I've seen photos of him and he of me. He seems to value our friendship very much but he is aware that I am looking for a little more than that. He says that he is too. He is 10 yrs my jr. but says that doesn't bother him a bit and I am considered attractive. The last time he cancelled he says he just got cold feet at the last minute. I have told him that if we are to meet he will have to make all of the effort next time. Do you think I should continue in this and what do you think he could be afraid of?
2007-02-05 07:25:18 · 18 answers · asked by Ande 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he got cold feet .. he is obviously not a man ..
A man would think before he agreed to meet you .. whether he was afraid of anything or not ... and once he agreed .. a real man would go through with the meeting ...
He could be married or something .. but whatever the reason .. he is a boy .... and not a man ..
I'm not saying he is a bad guy ... but he sounds like a little boy. If I was not ready to meet you .. I would not agree to and would tell you why.
You should probably know this anyway .. judging by your answer to one of my earlier questions.. and if you are the woman u seemed to be in that question ... then .. find a real man
dR bad
good luck
2007-02-05 09:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
several things first off
10 years may not matter to him but the truth is it will matter to everyone else.
You never stated your ages but if he is 20 and you are 30 you are in very different places financially and emotionally.
At 30 and 40 the differences diminish but other things arise such as maybe he wants kids and at 40 the chances of that (for you) start to diminish.
please think of these things if you are seriously thinking about a LTR!
one of the sad things about the internet is that people can pretend to be something that they are not.
DId he say he was six five and is really five six?.
DId he say he has a great job and a nice car?
The truth could be that he has no house and really drives a hoopty and lives in his mom's basement.
Maybe his picture is from 10 years ago, did the photo have a date on it?
Just because you are an honest person, dont assume everyone else is!
Those things that he probably lied about will be pretty obvious when you two meet! If he doesnt have the corporate job, it will show, if he lives with his mom and drives her car maybe she has a 'red hat society' license plate on it and it would be a giveaway.
Hell for all we know he might have a wife who works the night shift!
who knows but him....
I would just forget about him.
Talk if you must but slowly rid yourself from him. THis is never going to go anywhere until he gives you a better reason for not meeting other than cold feet!
2007-02-05 07:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the photo you saw of him was not really him. Sounds like he has something to hide. You did well by telling him that he has to make all of the effort to set up the next date.
Give him the benefit of the doubt once more but If he cancels again, then it's 3 strikes, You're OUT!!
Make sure you meet in a public place to stay safe.
Good luck! I hope it works, but if not, there are plenty of other guys! The right one will come along at the right time.
2007-02-05 07:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by crafty_girl123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably married or living with someone, which is why he hasn't shown up. Or, the photos he sent you aren't really him. A man who was truly interested in you would have shown up 3 weeks ago. Don't make lame excuses for someone who is simply leading you down the garden path. Move on. If internet friends don't meet you within 2 weeks, stop.
2007-02-05 07:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you want to refer for your husband about this habit, rather once you've your infant alongside. If he needs you to "decrease loose" tell him to hit upon a babysitter, then you fairly will. he's of direction no longer being a responsible make sure. you could tell his pals that you're a relaxing human being, even as the infant isn't recent and is with a babysitter.
2016-11-02 09:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if u put the effort into it to meet up and he cancels then thats his problem, i dont think hes afraid but yea i think u should have him make the effort this time and if he bells this time then for get about him
2007-02-05 07:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Shi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself actually think that you should not continue in this because you never know just who you really might be meeting, but if you think that he really is what he claims to be and you really want to meet him then go for it
2007-02-05 07:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd 'cut him loose' ... because he's simply 'stringing you along' for the fun of it, and I doubt that he's 'truly interested' in you ... if he is, then he'll definitely say or do 'something' that will 'prove it' to you when you 'cut him loose' ... if it's good, then you'll be 'good' too, but if it is 'bad' or 'illegal' then you should call the police and tell them about your 'mistake' with him.
2007-02-05 07:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is not looking for a serious relationship like he says he is. So I would just move on there other fish in the sea.
2007-02-05 07:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never meet you. Emotional problems, just plain ugly, lying about his age??? Don't know, but he will always cancel on you.
2007-02-05 07:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋