my friend has been cutting?

Question

i just found out that my best friend has been cutting herself for a long time.she says she sees a counseler but they dont know about it. Her parents cannot find out or she will get in a LOT of trouble. it terrifys me and i dont know what to do. Please help?

i really cannot tell her parents. you dont know them, they will be really angry, her brother had the same problem a few years ago and he was kicked out of the house

Answer 1

Hi MoOny,

You need to go talk to the counsellor she is seeing if at all possible. She sounds like a young person, is she still in school?. On all school and college campuses there are counsellors. Make an appointment and go talk to one of them about what you friend is doing and do also stress the importance of the parents not finding out. Please note however, if your friend is under a certain age at some point the parents are going to find out. For example if your friend is forced to go into hospital. I admire you for stepping forward and helping your friend, it could ultimately save her life. The parents sound like a piece of work! they are obviously in denial and also are personally unable to cope emotionally with this issue and need help them self's. If you are able to get the right help your friend needs maybe the parents will get the help they need to be supportive to their daughter. I wish you the best of luck in this matter. Your an awesome friend!!



Sincerely,

Alice H.

Answer 2

ok i am having the same issues. My friend just started cutting herself and drinks and shes 12. Her parents are abusive and we cant tell them either. Its a thing thats hard to deal with. Tell her that you love her and find someone who you can trust thats your friend. Go to a counsler and tell them everything thats happening, and explain the issues. Tomorrow im going to do exactly what i told you, because my friend isnt going to stop now. She will hate you for a while, but if you dont help her and she gets worse then she already is, you will never forgive yourself. Show her that people care about her, and then get some help. I'm torn too, and you know why I have the same problem. Oh God, i hope this all turns out ok...

I hope this helped you, and i hope you and your friend get through this allright.

Answer 3

Hi,
I've been through this same situation and I've cut myself too. I don't know much else to tell you besides having her talk to a school counselor! The only way her parents will find out, if it is becoming too much and too deep. It is not a healthy habit, and you could easily die from it. Make sure and tell her that. If you cut to deep in your skin you break veins causing the blood to come out of your body and you don't have a chance! I'm always here if she needs to talk to [e-mail] This is really important! Stay with her, and don't let her down if possible! That's the best thing for her! Hope it helps! <3

Answer 4

I know what your friend is going through with cutting. I used to cut all the time for 2 years.
She needs a lot of support from her friends, I would let her decide when it's time to tell someone because one of my friends told my counselor, which told my parents. That made me more depressed to where I almost killed myself twice. I spent a year in a mental institution, I know everyone thinks it helps, but it really doesn't when you're that depressed.
Honestly, I would just give her all the support you can give her, let her know how much she means to you.
But whatever you do, don't feel sorry for her. Cutters don't want people to feel sorry for them, they want understanding.

Answer 5

she needs to tell her counsellor. it doesnt make sense she's seeing a counsellor if she's not dealing with all her issues.
if her parents kicked her brother out for cutting himself too,it would seem they are not the type she feels she can talk to. Also i would be led to believe that some of her issues may be coming from her relationship with her parents.
I could be wrong but u might wanna ask her about that.

Answer 6

hi ummm i have been cutting too for a very long time there are not that many ways u can help ur friend try to trll her that its better to tell her parents i mean my parents dont know and i see a counselor and they dont know eather but i am trying to stop but if u wanna ask me anything feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 7

You should really tell her parents. If she were your child, wouldn't you want someone to tell you?

1-800-DONT-CUT is a hotline for cutters

Answer 8

Oh for God's sake. You need to tell her parents. She will NOT be in trouble----that's ridiculous. They will get her the right kind of help immediately. You will save her life.