wedding lists?

Question

Any good ideas about how to approach them and where to do them. I recognise that it;s a good idea to have one available, espeicailly as our wedding will have over 80 guests, but I'm dreading the whole experience, it's mortifying.
And do they have to go in with invites, or is it best to put 'available on request'?
yuk

I wasn't intending to be vague, where I come from that's what we call the list of gifts as ideas for what people can buy for you- usually registered at one or two shops, I'm guessing registry is probably the american term, we don't have showers in England, although it is becoming more popular. Sorry if I confused you- it wasn't intended!

Answer 1

Hi Congratulations of your forthcoming wedding. Generally in UK it is considered rude to include details of wedding list with the invitations although people do this. Saying that it is perhaps hypocritical that people like myself do think wedding lists are a good idea.When wedding lists started in UK most people tut tuted. However, times were changing. Years ago every colour of towels, bedding etc were used and co-ordinating everthing didn't come in to it. Also when a couple were married it was always a double bed so double bedding bought. Nowadays with Kingsize, SuperKing, Queen etc you couldn't just guess. These are just some of the reasons why it is more sensible to have a list. I have married family, and another daughter getting married this July and lists have been in Debenhams, John Lewis and Marks & Spencers depending where each one had wanted their lists. There were problems with absolutely every one of these stores, between breakages on arrival guests purchasing not to be told the goods wouldn't be in stock until long after the wedding date etc. The television programme Watch Dog a few years ago highlighted the atrocious service of wedding lists. However, would not put you off as eventually things get sorted out and may now be much improved. Also it can be excellent to also have a list with Argos for electrical items etc if they supply the brands you are looking for and use the big stores more for luxury items. Argos works slightly different but these goods can be pounds and pounds cheaper and if your guests have decided on a figure they want to spend you will get excellent value. The long and the short of it really is that if people want you to choose your own gift they will ask if you have a list and if they want to just buy a gift they will. You sound the type of person that will grateful whatever they decide.

Answer 2

wedding lists are a good idea. They're quite easy really. Go to your local store for example John Lewis, Debenhams, House of Fraser, and speak to someone about bridal registry, they then give you a little infrared thing that you go around the store with and zap the bar codes that makes a note of everything you want.

you can tell people within your invitations where you are registered, and also you can give the online details so that people can buy online if they don't want to give you a gift at the wedding. Don't be afraid, people will always buy gifts for a wedding, it's a given. make sure you have lots of little items for people you're worried about, or you can even say that where you're registered they can buy vouchers.

You would be surprised what you can get. you can register anything, not matter how large or small.

good luck !

Answer 3

The tradition, if you are talking about *gifts* is to register at a few places, both inexpensive and exspensive places, and with the invitation send a list of all the places the bride and groom are registered...... ppl know this list is just a suggestion and NOT a demand for certain gifts..... a lot of ppl do appreciate the list because it is hard to know what to buy a new couple.....if you have had a lot of showers you can, on the same list mention there will be a money tree... that is where ppl pin money or the wedding cards to a tree........ God bless

Answer 4

It is acceptable in the US to include the places you are registered in a *shower* invitation, but *never* in the actual wedding invitation. If you do not have a shower, people will either ask you or you can have several people (typically your wedding party, mom, good friends, etc.) spread the word-- chances are people will ask them where you are registered more often than they will ask you!

Answer 5

certainly? do no longer placed The record in the enjoying cards simply by fact it in basic terms Makes U look Ur Inviting Them so they purchase U issues..No Offence. pals and kin regularly communicate with reference to the marriage presents So I Doubt U'll Be Getting a lot of Toasters. i might enable people Make their very own selections Im specific Ull Get each little thing On Ur record with no need to ask Ppl. (: Congratulations On Ur wedding ceremony x

Answer 6

Debenhams (UK) have a great list service. You can do it in the store or on line and you get £50 from them. They send you updated details and will even post things straight to you.
They will provide you with cards to put in with your invitation and this is the generally done thing. It is not rude at all and helps both you and your guests.

Answer 7

First find someone who want s to marry you.

When that's all agreed go to John Lewis or Debenhams and ask for the Wedding List lady.

Answer 8

It is not good etiquette to include your gift registry in your invitations, only shower invitations, word of mouth, through email or wedding website.

Answer 9

Are you talking about the gift registry? They do not go with the invites. The information is spread by word of mouth, and most people will just ask you.

Answer 10

You make no mention of registries, or lists. People can always contact your family if they are unsure of what type of gift to get.