Does premarital sex cost women the ability to love?

Question

According to Eric Keroack, head of the U.S. Federal Family Planning Program, women who have premarital sex or sex with multiple partners "burn out" the Oxytocin receptors in their brains.

The result is that they lose the ability to form long lasting relationships with any partners. They also lose the ability to bond emotionally with their children. In short, according to Dr. Keroack, women who have premarital sex, or sex with more than one man, lose the ability to love.

Do you think he's right?

http://www.abstinence.net/pdf/contentmgmt/EricKeroackPresentation2003.pdf

Answer 1

I totally disagree with those statements, I had premarital sex and it taught me many lessons in life.
I learned enough that I was able to really appreciate true love & a real man when I found one.
As far as bonding with my child...My child is my everything, My life lessons has only bettered me as a mother.

Did you notice there was no pointing fingers at the men who cause these things in a womans life in that report?
Isn't that ironic.lol

Answer 2

I do not agree that women who have had premarital sex lose the ability to love. That's ridiculous! Look at how many women out there, after making bad pre-marital choices, finally did get married, and have good marriages! There's alot! HOWEVER, I do believe that when people have premarital sex, the girl pays an enormous price in her soul for it, and usually is the one that feels the most guilt, shame and remorse over it. Men bond to women mentally and emotionally first, which takes longer. Women bond to men phyisically much more quickly. This is why after haveing sex, so many guys get up the next morning and go on with thier lives as if nothing happened, while the girl sits on the edge of the bed, and cries, wondering why he's not calling her. Abstinence until marriage is the ONLY way to go, for the reasons listed above, not to mention the avoidance of every STD on the planet!

Answer 3

In case you live in a bubble and haven't noticed, it takes a guy for the woman to have premarital sex with. So obviously it ain't just women doing it. So I could ask the same question, why can't men just keep their legs locked? But the truth of the matter is, it doesn't have to do with gender. Many people want to have sex before marriage. That is their choice. My choice is to wait until I am married, and I hope my future husband has made the same choice. However nobody can control someone elses sexual life. What other people are doing is no business of yours. You can voice your opinion but don't do it in a condescending way.

Answer 4

I think you need to go read that report again. Or else Mr. Keroack knows something about Oxytocin that most endocrinologists and OB/GYN don't.

You see, Oxytocin is a hormone produced by the pituitary gland in the female which causes uterine contractions during childbirth. Re: the common labor-inducing drug Pitocin.

I seriously doubt that premarital sex causes any of the things you mention. Nor do I agree that sex equates to love under any circumstances.

But what do I know? I don't work for the federal government, as does Mr./Dr. Keroack. Lord knows you can trust whatever they say.

Honestly? This sounds like a poorly-written public service advertisement which is intended to frighten adolescents into abstinence (which in and of itself is not a bad thing at all). After all... this is supposedly put forth by the family planning program... and abstinence is in the website address... Hmmmm...... :|

Answer 5

Absolutely not. Sleeping with more than one man isn't going to make a woman lose the ability to connect emotionally. My guess is that this statistic is talking about a woman who has sex with 15 or 20 partners, not 2 or 3. Besides, premarital sex has been happening for hundreds of years, people are just paying more attention to it now.

Answer 6

I have no idea. However, I think that, if what he affirms is true, it doesn't matter if the women has been married or not, as the only fact of having sex with more than one man would imply her becoming unable to love someone.

Taking into account that there is no difference between having sex with one man or with many of them, with the same frequency, besides, of course, some health risks, the only fact of having sex at every time would lead to the same situation.

Answer 7

no everyone has the ability to love we are born and love our parents.however it might hurt romantic love because sleeping around isnt just sleeping around for women it always has an emotional attachment.i wouldnt say premarital sex is bad sometimes premarital sex can help people love each other more and be comfortable with each other in everyway.if anything is done carelessly,however,things can happen that might make a person not easy to love.its never impossible though

Answer 8

NO HE is just another idiot doctor with a theory, like the other hundred bazillion out there. I wouldn't doubt you could even find a doctor out there with the theory that premarital sex acctually increases a women's ability to love. or hey better yet, you could find a doctor that thinks all women are lesbians, or that men could have babies. Why oh why do people waste their time paying attention to all the doctors who think they know it all, from one study of like 50 women, and then come up with a rediculous theory!

Answer 9

I dont know could be cuz my mom is the same way he is explaining she doesnt care bout anyone but who she is with at the moment much less her kids....he could be onto something but i on the other hand had no problem settling down with the one and only i think it is just when you find that one person...will you learn that you never loved at all before them....yah good question

Answer 10

I doubt that Mr. Keroack actually said that, but if he did, you can ignore him; that's one of the silliest claims imaginable. Remember, this guy is a political appointee, and not a physician or a scientist. There exists NO evidence to support such an outlandish claim!