I went to a mexican funeral for my girl friends mom. I asked her if I can stay with her and sit with her. She said she wants to sit with her family, but did not ask me to sit with them. So I sat by myself. Is that custom, because I'm not family.
2007-02-05 07:10:49 · 14 answers · asked by Ty P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it is.
If you were enagaged, then it is a different story.
2007-02-05 07:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Typically the first few benches are reserved for family only. I mean, just because its traditional, doesn't mean you couldn't have sit there...however, that's up to the family. In this instance, I think you made the wise choice.
I'm sorry to hear about your gf's loss. Right now it's just important that you be understanding and offer your fullest support. Losing somebody like a mother or father can be devastating.
Good luck.
2007-02-05 07:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by allthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 09:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by fette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually had something similar to this happen to me when I was married to my first husband... when his grandmother passed away, I wasn't "allowed" to sit with him or his family, because I was only in the family by association, I had to sit in the back of the church with the other n-laws... come to find out, this was the way his family did things, and not in fact a custom...
2007-02-05 08:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funerals are difficult as we all know, but keep in mind that people deal with grief differently. Perhaps your girlfriend knows she will be busy providing emotional support to family members, maybe she would feel uncomfortable to express her emotions with you right by her side or maybe it does boil down to custom. Most importantly talk to her and let her know you don't mean to put any pressure on her, you just want a little more information.
2007-02-05 07:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is customary. It is the family that sits on the side after the casket. BUT IF they invite (ask) you to sit with them, then it is OK. But do NOT invite yourself. You can offer as you did, but she declined, so do NOT be insulted by this. Truthfully, IN-LAWS do not always sit in these seats. Sometimes they do but NOT always.
2007-02-05 07:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me. Latin families can seem strange. My girlfriend is Venezuelan. They are super close, in a way that me - being quite white- and my family just aren't. It's not probably a custom, as much as they are wrapped up in each other & their grief and not worried about you at that moment. Just be there for her and don't say anything. If you say something about it, I promise you, she will be offended, tell the rest of her family (who will then think you are trying to keep her from them) and then they'll convince her to dump you. lol. Sound too crazy? Um, trust me when I tell you that it's not....
2007-02-05 07:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how long you have been together and how close you are to the family. When my father died I sat with my family. My fiance, my brother-in-law, and my brother's girlfriend sat in the row behind us. At that point, I needed to be with my siblings.
2007-02-05 07:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. only family sits together. I'm not mexician and I went to a funeral with my boyfriend at the time and he understood that that was my time with the family.
2007-02-05 07:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by deus82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family in mourning mourns as a family. When she leaves her family at the end, she will continue to mourn, but with you.
2007-02-05 07:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think so. She most likely just wanted to be close to her family during that sad time
2007-02-05 07:14:06 · answer #11 · answered by Diamond~ I <3 my Son 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋