I sent her a note apologizing for what I had (or had not done). Most of all, work and helping a parent spread me too thin. Idiosyncrasies developed and it drove her away. In response, she said "I need some time to think about it all." I guess it could be worse. Bad or good sign? what would you do it you were me (besides finding another woman or moving on as I know plenty will say) ? Thanks.
2007-02-05 07:10:21 · 9 answers · asked by keepingitgoing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, just let her think. I know it's frustrating, but most of the time girls don't just say stuff to get guys off their case. They really do need to think. I'm actually in your exact situation (well, not exactly, but you get it). I was having EXTREME family problems, and just tended to freak out a lot. I wrote a note explaining that to my bf, but didn't push and push to find out what was happening with our relationship.
If I was in your situation, I would:
1- give her time to think.
2- approach her directly, not by note, and just ask what she thinks. Explain that you are not trying to force a relationship with her, but you really care about her and want back what you two had in the beginning.
3- tell her what was happening in your life, and tell her how much you appreciated her.
4- give her more time to think!
It's going to be painful even if you two get back together again. When things are tough at home, you can't help but let it through around your friends. Just be patient, and don't lose your head when you talk to her if she doesn't understand. Just pray and be PATIENT!
Good luck. :)
2007-02-05 07:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by whoops! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you sent her a note apologizing for what you either did or didn't do. Now you need to show her that you're sorry and that you'll try to prevent this from happening again. Send her some flowers (not roses) with another note that says something to the fact of missing you, since we've been apart. I know I've made so many mistakes that crushed your heart. I'm sorry for the hurt that caused you and would love to make it up to you. Wait a few days after sending the flowers and send her card get one of the (between you and me) cards.
2007-02-05 07:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't really sound like a heartfelt apology at all - sounds like you don't think you did anything wrong. You've got excuses for whatever you did, which may or may not be legit. Either way, she's been hurt in some way and you need to acknowledge whatever you did to contribute to it. Bet you could have done something differently - tell her what you should have done. Owning up to it and acknowledging her feelings will help, but she needs time to trust you again.
2007-02-05 07:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by real_kiss_fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her some space. Dont sound to bad to me, She could have just said..NO. If she needs some time to think, let her have that time, she is probably just re-evaluating her life, and her relationship with you and so forth.
Just let her know you are there, and your ready and waiting...
Yea, the last thing you need to do, is find another woman, then your ex-girlfriend would know or think that you werent serious with the apology.
If she does talk to you soon, just let her know, "You realized some things, and you are sorry, and that things will be different the next time", That is if you work it out...
Dont swarm her though, or call alot...Just let her have her time..
I hope this helps you some..
2007-02-05 07:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good sign. Just give her time. She could've just said "Too little too late." Don't dwell on it. If she wants to get back together that's great. If not, the if nothing else you apologized and brought closure to the relationship.
2007-02-05 07:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i do no longer think of i've got considered absolutely everyone one else do this! stable for you, yet different than following the community regulations, i would not sensor myself too a lot if I have been you. no longer relatively everyone is going to get your humorousness or get exhilaration from it. Peace
2016-10-01 11:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by tuberman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and space to think and wait for her to approach you. If a couple weeks go by and she still hasn't said anything about it, gently bring the matter up with her again.
2007-02-05 07:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means...leave me alone...I need to think right now. It's not a bad sign...but it's not the best. My advice. Do as she asks...take a step back give her some space and time. :) Good luck
2007-02-05 07:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by tuxgal3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just give her a little time to think.its best....maybe she will come around. Good luck!!!!
2007-02-05 07:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by rkaitedid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋